Friday, November 11, 2011

Transsexual Dating Sites



The live of a transsexual person is not an easy one. We are such a small part of the population, that it is difficult to find anyone who has a clue about what you are about, or who would be compatible with you. I now understand from first hand experience that transsexual people in smaller centres often lead a lonely, despondent life. For this reason, transsexuals seem to gravitate to big cities all over the world.
My first experience meeting people online was with AOL chat rooms several years ago. My first reaction to the chat room was very positive. I thought that it was an amazing way to meet new people. It would be the tool that would let me meet someone outside of my small community. It only took me two or three months to realize what I was exposing myself to. Many of the people that I met where just there to take advantage of other people. I think I heard every scam in the world in my time using AOL chat. What a huge disappointment!
When I first started with AOL, I was living in a small town in the American Midwest. My sexual preference is not mainstream and there were slim pickings in my local community. You cannot imagine how lonely I was! There was nobody in my community that I could relate to. I was becoming increasingly depressed. When I found AOL chat, it seemed to me that it was the answer to my prayers. Finally, a chance to meet someone that I had something in common with. I was willing to move anywhere for that.
I met a fair number of people, and even managed to meet a few in person, but nothing really clicked for me At one point I was sure that I had found the one but I soon found out there’s a thin line between reality and fantasy.
It seems that many people online pad the truth about who they are or what they do. It is a safe place to lie to other people, because if you are careful, nobody knows who you really are anyway. There is no retribution for misbehavior or giving false information to another person. You can totally play with people's emotions and then just sign up for a different account with a different name, with absolutely no worries about liability for your actions.
Online relationships are as varied as in person relationships, but they often bias towards the more hurtful. The fact that people are anonymous often sees them dissing on you rather than building you up. They can leave you with serious questions about your own self worth. If you let them, they can even drive you to the brink of suicide. If you fall in love with someone, and they pull away, it can leave you questioning why it is that relationships are not working out. You tend to question yourself when in fact the fault is the media itself.
When looking for love online, you will have to keep your sincerity radar on full alert. It is so easy to be drawn into a con job. I have found that one good litmus test is to see early on if they are willing to talk on the phone. It seems that people who are just conning you do not want that level of traceability.
I finally realized that I was being made a fool of way too often. In an effort to not waste as much time, I decided to set targets and goals with each new person that I met. I decided that from now on I would chat online for no more than a week, and then if we both found each other interesting I would insist they call me on the phone or I could call them.
It is truly amazing how many people vanish into the ether when confronted with talking on a phone! To my way of thinking, real people use telephones, talking on the phone is an essential component of the process of getting to know someone. If they don't want to talk to you by phone then they're just wasting your time and nothing will come of it.
Because chatting is a fairly recent phenomena and you have been talking all your life, you are much better at picking up verbal clues. You will be better able to delve into the personality of the person over the phone than on chat. One thing about a telephone conversation is that they can only talk to one person verbally at a time. If the person is on a chat room, it is nothing to keep several conversations going at once.

I was really getting disenchanted with chat room romances.A friend of mine suggested online dating, I freaked out and told him that I had wasted so much time and energy on chat-room losers that I didn't want to hear the word “online” again. He explained that it was not a chat room but a dating site, a transsexual dating site. I was shocked speechless! I had no idea they even existed. He sent me a link to a site that listed hundreds of dating sites, including a page of transsexual dating sites.

Let me cut to the chase and say that I tried a couple of the sites out and found someone for me. I have never been happier. Please check out the link below for yourself. If a transvestite like me can find love, so can you!

Good Luck!

Transsexual Dating

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