In Victorian times, most adult ladies never experienced and orgasm. In fact, many did not even know what an orgasm was. Many women were brought up with no sexual instruction, and sometimes with negative messages about their bodies, and their sexuality. In fact a twin study climaxing in 2005 found that one in three women reported never or seldom achieving orgasm during intercourse, and just one tenth always achieved an orgasm. Orgasms don’t come easily for many women. A woman who cannot have an orgasm is as frustrated as a man with an erectile disfunction.
Now the question is how do we change all this, especially when most women now a days want orgasms. Lets start by defining a female orgasm. Woman experiencing an orgasm is much like what men achieve-there is a peak of sexual excitement, marking a moment of intense pleasure, and a pulsing, electric sensation that spreads out through the body. The rhythmic pulsations take place within the pelvic area also encompassing the vaginal walls. One key difference is that women do not have to have a recovery period, and may have many orgasms with continued stimulation, usually within 60 to 120 seconds. In most women, there is no fluid ejaculated during orgasm. This is an important fact for men to know, so as to not feel like they have not pleasured their woman, or make them feel inadequate because they don't.
With the right stimulation, most women can achieve multiple orgasms if they so desire.
Women are physiologically pickier than men when it comes to achieving an orgasm. For instance:
1) They need to feel wanted, and appreciated a sensual surrounding
3) A partner whom they really like
4) Relaxed environment
5) The right degree if clitoral stimulation – not to rough, not too easy
You will not have great success in giving your partner orgasms if you fail to provide most of the above.
Men should understand that women will have different varieties of orgasms---the most common is orgasm of the clitoris. The clitoris may be stimulated in a few ways, but the most common are oral stimulation or hand manipulation. The clitoral orgasm may be wet or dry, and leads to pulsations within the uterus . Another type of orgasm is called the G Spot. The G spot is tougher to zero in on: it is located on the upper side of the vagina – about one half way in. The majority of women will have the G spot a few inches inside the vagina, and on the upper side. Gentle but firm pressure is required to find the G spot if the woman is not stimulated yet. It is a softer area that is about one half centimeter in size. The location and size varies somewhat from woman to woman. A vaginal orgasm will usually occur if the G-spot is appropriately stimulated.
Figure 1, Internal Female Anatomy:
In summary, an orgasm is something amazing that will provide both partners with a wonderful rush of pleasurable feelings. The next list is a summary that can help you to help your female partner have orgasms regularly:
1) Women are touchy, feely people – use gentle stroking with your hands, lips and tongue.Be gentle, especially when touching her genitals, or rubbing her clitoris
3) Gently kiss her breasts to create excitement
4) Take it slow- it is not a race
5) Talk to your partner, find out what she likes
6) Be a tease- touching her pleasurable spots then withdrawing over, and over again. This will build arousal, and heighten orgasm.
7) Use your own natural lubrication to moisten her clitoris – however she may need additional lubrication, you can buy lubricants at any drugstore.
8) Be careful not to over stimulate some parts of the body – too much manipulation of the nipples or clitoris can cause pain
9) Experiment: try different things
10) Discuss anything new you may want to try and listen to her, you do not want to push her into something that will spoil the mood
Men should use this guide, because if their partner can enjoy orgasms every time they have sex, then you will definitely have more sex.
If you are an sexually unhappy woman – nag your partner to read this article, after all, your entire future is at stake!
Good Luck!
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