Transsexual Dating Sites

The live of a transsexual person is not an easy one. We are such a small part of the population, that it is difficult to find anyone who has a clue about what you are about, or who would be compatible with you. I now understand from first hand experience that transsexual people in smaller centres often lead a lonely, despondent life. For this reason, transsexuals seem to gravitate to big cities all over the world.
My first experience meeting people online was with AOL chat rooms several years ago. My first reaction to the chat room was very positive. I thought that it was an amazing way to meet new people. It would be the tool that would let me meet someone outside of my small community. It only took me two or three months to realize what I was exposing myself to. Many of the people that I met where just there to take advantage of other people. I think I heard every scam in the world in my time using AOL chat. What a huge disappointment!
When I first started with AOL, I was living in a small town in the American Midwest. My sexual preference is not mainstream and there were slim pickings in my local community. You cannot imagine how lonely I was! There was nobody in my community that I could relate to. I was becoming increasingly depressed. When I found AOL chat, it seemed to me that it was the answer to my prayers. Finally, a chance to meet someone that I had something in common with. I was willing to move anywhere for that.
I met a fair number of people, and even managed to meet a few in person, but nothing really clicked for me At one point I was sure that I had found the one but I soon found out there’s a thin line between reality and fantasy.
It seems that many people online pad the truth about who they are or what they do. It is a safe place to lie to other people, because if you are careful, nobody knows who you really are anyway. There is no retribution for misbehavior or giving false information to another person. You can totally play with people's emotions and then just sign up for a different account with a different name, with absolutely no worries about liability for your actions.
Online relationships are as varied as in person relationships, but they often bias towards the more hurtful. The fact that people are anonymous often sees them dissing on you rather than building you up. They can leave you with serious questions about your own self worth. If you let them, they can even drive you to the brink of suicide. If you fall in love with someone, and they pull away, it can leave you questioning why it is that relationships are not working out. You tend to question yourself when in fact the fault is the media itself.
When looking for love online, you will have to keep your sincerity radar on full alert. It is so easy to be drawn into a con job. I have found that one good litmus test is to see early on if they are willing to talk on the phone. It seems that people who are just conning you do not want that level of traceability.
I finally realized that I was being made a fool of way too often. In an effort to not waste as much time, I decided to set targets and goals with each new person that I met. I decided that from now on I would chat online for no more than a week, and then if we both found each other interesting I would insist they call me on the phone or I could call them.
It is truly amazing how many people vanish into the ether when confronted with talking on a phone! To my way of thinking, real people use telephones, talking on the phone is an essential component of the process of getting to know someone. If they don't want to talk to you by phone then they're just wasting your time and nothing will come of it.
Because chatting is a fairly recent phenomena and you have been talking all your life, you are much better at picking up verbal clues. You will be better able to delve into the personality of the person over the phone than on chat. One thing about a telephone conversation is that they can only talk to one person verbally at a time. If the person is on a chat room, it is nothing to keep several conversations going at once.

I was really getting disenchanted with chat room romances.A friend of mine suggested online dating, I freaked out and told him that I had wasted so much time and energy on chat-room losers that I didn't want to hear the word “online” again. He explained that it was not a chat room but a dating site, a transsexual dating site. I was shocked speechless! I had no idea they even existed. He sent me a link to a site that listed hundreds of dating sites, including a page of transsexual dating sites.

Let me cut to the chase and say that I tried a couple of the sites out and found someone for me. I have never been happier. Please check out the link below for yourself. If a transvestite like me can find love, so can you!

Good Luck!

Transsexual Dating

Are Gay Men Shallow

 A lot of people seem to think that gay men are shallow when it comes to finding someone they would like to have a long term relationship with. But is that really true? Of course many of us prefer someone who is healthy as well as physically fit; heck you can say the same thing about heterosexuals as well. In fact sometimes it is hard for people that do not fit that type to find a partner. It is more of a challenge for gay men because they are in a minority. Even the gay community has its share of shallow types. My idea is that if they do not like me then they can kiss my not so flabby tush.

As you get older you find that most guys are not as interested in how you look as opposed to your intelligence and brains. But until that day comes you might just have to take what you can get, or try going to the gym once in awhile. Appearance is definitely a big factor, but it is not the only thing in the game of love between young gay men. Not many guys want to date someone that is chubby. Personally for me I have to be very attracted to the person before I even have any idea's about approaching another man, let alone start a relationship with them.  If that makes me shallow, so be it, but I know what I want. 

 Why are so many young gay men interested in slim trim athletic types? Guys in general are sexual creatures and want to have sex with good looking guys. This also holds true for a lot of young guys are only looking for sex and not any form of long term commitment. Of course attractiveness standards vary with different cultures and races, I have a few over weight friends that have no trouble getting dates and having serious relationships. There are many reasons why some people will focus on physical attributes over all others. Every group has people who are shallow when it comes to picking a mate its just who they are.

Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against people who don't measure up to my standards as far a dating goes, most of them are nice people but I just would not consider dating them. I have some wonderful friends that I cherish for the friends that they are, and I met most of them online. I love meeting people online because it tends to push my extended network of friends so much farther than I could ever do within my existing network of pals. You might think that I am callous because I can see what they look like before I put the moves on them, but it is more than that. Many of them are people that I happened to meet in chat rooms on dating sites and I became interested in them because of what they had to say. I have not dated many of them, but I do consider many of them to be among my circle of friends now. One of the main reasons why I hang out on dating sites is because there is a certain kindred spirit thing going on because all of us are still looking.

I think I am at that cusp in my life where I am transitioning from casual pickups to a long term commitment. I am not quite ready to make the commitment jump yet, but I am thinking that a few longer term relationships might help me get past the fear that I have of being exclusive with just one person. For me, online dating is a useful tool that helps me find new tools (LOL). If you start dating and the person seems to be rushing it and making you uncomfortable, it is easy to move on. And if by chance they start to hassle you online, well all you have to do is block them, with online dating sites your real email address phone number and address are never given out so there's no worry about someone harassing you unless you were stupid and gave them your personal contact information already.  The best thing though is that most of the men on dating sites are just like you, and are unlikely to push themselves on someone where the affection is not being returned.

For the most part most men do not care so much what you look like, or how you style your hair or whether or not you work out or not. They just want to find someone compatible. They want someone with the same interests, personality traits. Someone who is  compassionate, caring and giving. Someone who's company they can enjoy. Someone looking for a more of a commitment than just a one night stand.

So if you want to expand your horizons, consider joining an online dating site. There are many, many really solid sites out there that are totally committed to helping you find someone special in your life. They have a variety of members from many cultures all looking for someone to share their experiences and lives with. So why wait? Get off your butt, get online and check them out. You won't be disappointed. At worst you will meet a lot of interesting people that you will come to regard as friends, even if they never make it to lovers. The link below is to a site that I found helpful when I was first starting out in the internet dating arena.

http://www.top100datingpersonals.com/gaydating.php