Mature Online Dating Works!

I was in my early fifties and had been divorced for a couple of years. In that time I had not connected with anybody, so, like many other people nowadays, I turned to online dating. Because of my age, I really didn't think I had much of a chance of meeting  anyone online. Being not very computer literate, I was very reluctant, but my friends and sisters kept pushing me to try it. Since I did not think I had much to lose in giving it a try, I took the plunge. I made my profile, and had my sisters pick out some of the best photos of me. I am such a Luddite with computers that I had to actually get a friend to upload the photos that my sister selected for my profile. So once I was finished with all of that, I pretty much just waited. I was not expecting much. While I was waiting, I did spend some time checking out the guys on the site. I was pleased to see that there were a fair amount of them my age. That surprised me because I expected to just see younger guys. So much for my assumptions.

The next day I had over a dozen emails in my inbox. I could not believe it. It was pretty exciting.  Some of that excitement ebbed a bit when I read some of them. I cannot believe the stupidity of some men. However a couple were quite interesting and I replied to them. If I got to the point that I wanted to meet in person I made sure that I met everyone at a nice restaurant down the street from where I worked. I felt safe there, knew most of the staff, and knew they would help me if there was any issues. It was exciting, but it was exhausting.  Learning so much information about so many people and keeping it all straight in your head is tough work.Interacting with all of these men was exciting, but it was mentally exhausting as well. Keeping them all straight was difficult. I finally resorted to opening a diary for each on my computer and reviewing it before I talked to each of them. It was lots of work, but I kept at it. I started questioning if I could keep up the pace, but I was determined not to spend much more of my life by myself, so I kept at it.

I loved being one half of a couple, and I desperately wanted that again. In all my conversations with various men, one person seemed to be in my thoughts more often than most. His profile showed that he was not self absorbed and it was very well written. Articulate but concise. He said that he believed in equality for women and that he was in touch with his feminine side. My first instinct was that he was gay and just pulling my leg, but I later realized that hew was the genuine article. He was just a very caring person who believed that women were not second class citizens. He told me that he had not always been so open minded, but he had spent many years in Europe, and had seen what can happen when people let outside cultures influence society's mores. He had been transferred back to our city fairly recently.

Since I loved Europe, and had been there many times on vacation, and also loved most winter sports as he did, we seemed to have a lot in common that we could talk about.  It was funny how it was that I had started talking to him in the first place. It was all from the wording of his first email. He had no picture on his profile at all, so at first, I did not know what to expect. Eventually I got him to email me a snapshot. It was not that clear, but at least I knew that he was taller than he was wide, and had most of his hair. But by that time I would not have cared all that much anyway. His personality had me totally mesmerized by then. Because he seemed too good to be true, I was a bit nervous about giving him my personal information. When we first decided to talk on the phone, I convinced him to give me his phone number instead of my giving him mine. It just seemed more prudent. I intended to use call blocking when I called. He gave me his number but I was actually too scared to call at first. But after reflecting on the silliness of it all, I finally got up the gumption to call. It changed my life.

He was just so amazing. In real life he was even better than online. So sweet, and always a gentleman. For that first date we met at a nice little restaurant that we were both familiar with. I got there first, worried that it would make me look needy, but I could not help myself. I am compulsive about being early to everything. My biggest concern was that we would not click. As I looked towards the door, in walked this gorgeous hunk of a man. He had black hair with just a touch of grey, he just stood there looking for me for a minute then came over and sat down. I was in complete awe. We talked and laughed and shared some personal stories. Time was streaming by but I could not stop it. I did not want it to have to end. It was too bad that we were only planning a meal together. The time was going by too fast.  We left after he paid the bill. I noticed that he left a nice tip as well. He kissed me when we got to my house. As he drove away, I sighed. Everything was just too good to be true. The chemistry for me had been instantaneous. I already knew that he was the one.

We had several more dates after that, and it seemed that every date was better then the one before. But something began to bother me. I had not been exactly truthful about my age in my profile. My friends convinced me that it was a marketing exercise and that stretching the truth a bit was expected. I had only shaved three years off of my age, No big deal. But nobody likes to be lied to. It is a breach of trust, and once broken can become a huge issue in a relationship. It was not good that I had started our relationship with a lie. I decided to tell him the truth when I felt the time was right.

One night, he took me to a small club for a drink. The waiter asked me for proof of age with a smile on his face. I just knew that my honey Max had put him up to it. So just for fun I took my drivers licence out to show him, we all had a good chuckle about it. Max asked if he could see my license and I just passed it over without a thought. He said, “Holy cow, you're fifty four!” I sat there in shock. Then he started laughing like an idiot! When I asked, “What's so funny?” He said that he had lied about his age as well. In the final analysis it ended up that our actual ages were two years apart. He was just a bit older than me. We both laughed that we had each started out with a lie.

We dated for about six months. In the wee hours of the morning, he called me. I was startled out of a very deep sleep where I was dreaming about cavorting around with him in our mutual all-togethers. He said he needed to talk to me right now, and that It couldn’t wait. He would not tell me anything over the phone. So I waited with mixed emotions for twenty minutes or so until he arrived. He walked in and announced, “I need to say something that cannot be put off any longer.”

I braced myself for the worst, even opening a box of Kleenex because I was sure I was going to need them. Well I needed them, but in a good way. He asked me to marry him. He said he had never been so happy with anyone in his life, and that he knows I'm the one. I had to say yes. I mean what else could I do. I was madly in love with him.

For the last three years, since we have been married, I have been blissfully happy. When I had thought of my first marriage in the past, I wanted something as good. When I look back on it now, I realize that it had been the shell of a marriage. What I have with Max has eclipsed it in so many ways. The honeymoon never ends. And to think I found him on an online dating site. Someplace that I had thought of as a last chance place to meet someone!

The saga of Max and I is just starting. But I am eternally grateful to the online dating industry for bringing us together. No matter what you think about them right now, don't ever be shy or embarrassed about joining an online dating site. In my opinion, they are the future of courtship.
Below I have posted a link to one of the resource sites that I used. The sites referenced there are some of the best and are well organized. There are so many to choose from you are sure to find what you want. Good luck in your search!

Advice for Women

The Beach Date

You just gotta love the beach. It is a relaxing place to be, and everyone is their to have a good time. The beach is an even better place if you have some hot chick on your arm If your are going to take a date to the beach, there are a few things that you have to do to be prepared. Here are some tips and advice in that direction.

There are FIVE main things that you have to take to any beach outing. If you forget any for these, your day will be off to a lousy start that can only get worse. BSSWT is the mnemonic to remember. They stand for Blanket, sunscreen, shoes, water and towels. You need water or else you can get a severe headache from dehydration. The shoes and towel are to protect your feet and body from the incredibly hot sand, and the sunscreen is to protect your skin so you can stay out all day. Use an SPF of 30 or better at a minimum. However, once you’ve got all that stuff, you’ve got the basics covered. Now the advanced pros and cons to the beach date to consider.

The Good Stuff

One of the truly great things about a beach date is that you get to see your honey in a bathing suit. The second plus is that it is inexpensive and usually just a lot of laid back fun. Plus, if you’re sunglasses are dark enough, all the other women on the beach in their bikinis are there to see too. Just don’t get caught staring!

Another great thing about the beach date is swimming and frolicking with your date. It is sometimes a bit difficult getting in those first few intimate touches, but losing your balance and grabbing each other for support while playing in the water is a great ice breaker in that area. Similarly, there is something about swimming together in deeper water and taking a water treading break that requires being close and personal. Speaking of, applying her sunscreen is another way to establish instant physical intimacy.

Dating at the beach also invites ending the day with a picnic supper while watching the sunset. This is very romantic, and if you have played your cards right all day, will lead to much more intimacy.

The Bad Stuff

One thing that is sure to spoil a beach outing is rain, cold weather or excessive wind. Check the forecast before you leave so that you have an idea of what might be coming. Remember too, that the temperature at the beach is always a little cooler, because of the onshore breeze. Bring an extra sweater in case she gets chilly.

Sharks are always a potential threat to a good date. Don’t take her to Amity Island in New England. From the films about that place I’ve seen, beachgoers can have problems. ;-)

Babies and kids can be annoying, let’s face it. If you’re blanket is beside a family with a bunch of screaming babies or rambunctious kids, it can be tough to relax and get cozy with your lady. Find somewhere quiet and private. And don’t be afraid to move if a family settles beside you. Keep mobile!

Lastly, you have to expect a few muscle-bound hunks will be walking along the beach looking for women. These jerks ruin it for all the other dudes who have a beer belly or shoulder hair. You can try distracting her when they come near, but it is better to actually just let her get her eyeful of hunky dude. Chances are she would not be going out with you if body builder types enamor her.

If things go really well, she might want to stay on the beach after everyone else has left and get frisky. No matter what all the Hollywood movie storylines tell you, making love on the beach is not likely to be all that enjoyable. Here’s why. Sand will get everywhere and in everything, in spite of the blanket. This can cause a lot of hurt and make the date end up on a miserable note. On top of that, a lot of biting insects come out at night along most shorelines. In most locals, nighttime is a time to cover up, not get bare-naked. It is much, much better to bring her home to bed. Who knows, she just might stay the night!

Hope this helps, and remember the sunscreen!

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No More Blind Dates!

I've had more bad luck with blind dates that friends have set me up with than anyone I know. My very first blind date seemed nice at first. But once she started to talk, she just would not quit. At one point in her monologue, she started to talk about all the problems that she had had with kidney stones. I sat there with a look of disbelief on my face which she misinterpreted as interest. Unintentionally I muttered out loud, “I don't believe this”. She then said, “You don't believe me? Well look at this!”. She then started rummaging through her purse and pulled out a small medicine bottle. She opened it and emptied it onto the table. I could never have imagined what it was that ended up there! Three large kidney stones. She felt compelled to carry them around with her! I have heard of people keeping baby teeth, but kidney stones are just too weird for me.

After dinner she excused herself to the ladies room. After what seemed like a half hour, she had still not returned. I started to worry. The next time the waitress came by I asked her if she would check up on her for me. The next thing I know the waitress comes out yelling for someone to call an ambulance saying a young women had passed out in the washroom. I went in to see if there was something I could do and saw her laying on the floor in her own vomit. Apparently she was bulimic and is now being treated for the disorder. Funny I didn't notice she had any problem, but then I had thought it a little weird that she was wearing such bulky clothing on such a hot day. I guess it just goes to show you that there are some very sick people walking around and you would not know it if you are not specifically looking for it.

I had a few more blind dates. Most of them had some interesting personality quirks, which is likely why they were not attached to anyone. There was the goth looking more like Dracula's bride than a date, miss sunshine who was so bubbly she made you want to vomit, tattoo lady with snakes and lizards adorning all of her visible skin, and iron maiden who wore tons of metal stuff stuck through various parts of her anatomy (yuk). But I just classified these as my personal turn offs because I have seen all of them since with other guys.

My very last blind date was really a humdinger. A friend of mine (or should I say ex friend) gave her my email address and told me she was really hot (ya she was hot alright). We got along well chatting and emailing, and when we finally got around to talking on the phone, her voice was really, really sexy. Apparently she had the hots for  meet me too. We decided to meet at a Red Lobster. I arrived first and was sweating with  nervousness about meeting this hot sexy chick. I saw an old Toyota Tercel pull into the parking lot with the front driver side riding low. I remember thinking that the front spring in the car must be broken. It parked and the door opened, and out stepped (well stepped is a bad word for the series of motions it took her to extract herself from the vehicle) my date. OUCH!

It seemed my hot sexy chick was more like 350 pounds of pure fat! She had totally set me up! She told me she had an average body type. I don't think I've ever seen a slender hippo, and that is about the best example from the animal world that she most resembled. 

My face must have looked shocked, but before she could see me, I managed to compose myself and put my best foot forward (all the time hoping that she would not step on it). I met her at the door and escorted her back to my table where we ordered our food. When our food came, she had difficulty reaching it because her stomach was in the way. I was stunned to watch her calmly pick up the end of the table, pull it towards her, and plunk the edge of it on her abdomen. I forgot my hunger and just stared at her as she proceeded to wolf down her dinner. She reached over and grabbed mine asking, “You're not eating this are you?” On top of this, she ordered and ate three different deserts, all the time remarking at how she thought that desert was the best part of any meal. I paid the bill, which put a serious dent in my wallet, and wound the evening down as quickly as it was polite to do. I stopped by a McDonald’s on the way home for a burger and onion rings because I was still hungry and it was all I could afford. I just ordered. After this evening's spectacle, I could not face super-sizing it like I usually do. She phoned me the next night and after gushing over the great time she had, she wanted to know when we would get together again. I told her that I was sorry but I would not be able to see her anymore because my company had just informed me that day that I would be transferred to another location across the country and I would be moving by the end of the week. What a coward I was, but I just could not tell her what I really thought.

I have learned my lesson. No more stupid blind dates for me.
From now on I only spend time looking for women on online dating sites. Needless to say, I am much better at detecting phonies than I used to be, so I seldom have any negative surprises. The only negative things that I have to face now are not getting a good vibe from a woman that I would otherwise be proud to be with forever.

Here is where I found the best online dating sites to join:
top dating sites

Better Sex Anywhere On a Budget

Having a new sex partner means that you get to explore their kinky side. The new sales support person may like dress up sex. You know, nurse naughty, french maid, Marion the librarian, etc. The cute, shy guy who started last week may turn out to be an exhibitionist who loves having sex in public parks or in the stationary room. You just never know.

Some day when you have had a few drinks, suggest that you tour a sex shop to see what kinds of weird things that they have. Get the clerks to explain everything. Usually this is a lot of fun, and even if you do not purchase anything, you can laugh about it for weeks.

With the constantly rising cost of living and the bad economy, purchases at a sex shop can get expensive. On top of this, it is absolutely impossible to return anything used (for obvious reasons).

In an effort to help you stretch your shrinking sex toy dollar, I have compiled a list of low cost alternatives. Make sure that you check these out with a health expert. Allergies, or other problems can turn the most fun activity into a nightmare!


Sex In The Office (Or Anywhere For That Matter)

If you are not getting enough through regular means, then try this. Set your phone on vibrate, and place it down the front of your drawers or panties. Now it is a simple matter to call your phone from another device. Hey, finally your will be able to enjoy telemarketers calling you all the time. If you turn off your voice mail, it will ring you into an orgasm! Sort of a dingle tingle. If you have two cell phones you can call yourself during meetings at work, thus keeping a pleasant smile on your face while others are nodding off. Who knows, you may even get a promotion for being so "attentive" and "upbeat".


Vigorous Veggie Vamping

Skip the expensive sex shop and browse the aisles of your local grocery store for a suitable alternative. Once you have it home, wash it well in warm water and slide a condom on it. Add an appropriate amount of lube, and see if it has the size you like. The best options are:
1) Cucumber – recommended for average sized vaginas – take the nubs off first though
2) Carrot – ideal for smaller ladies with tight pussies
3) Zucchini – the best choice for larger sized women.
4) Baking Potato – be careful you do not lose it up there – the zucchini is likely more practical
5) Sweet potato – these can have some interesting twists for your pleasure – select carefully for maximum entertainment.
6) Celery – no matter which end you use, this one will likely be disappointing. Of course now a full bunch might just substitute well if you cannot find an appropriately sized zucchini!
7) Watermelon – Holy Cow! You have to be kidding me! Right?

So if you want, you can use the veggie of choice as a way to size a dildo purchase at a sex store. Either that, or else you can just keep on the veggie sex regime. The best deal about veggie sex is that you can size the amount of your pleasure stick without resorting to a lot of expense. A few bucks can buy you three different size veggie prototypes to try, so if you ever go to the sex shop for a more permanent type toy, you know exactly the size to purchase.

Now you may get some interesting ideas as you browse by the deli department. Anything in the deli is just not recommended, no matter how natural it may look or feel.


Unique Ways To Stimulate an Orgasm in a Woman

It is a published fact that many women can only achieve an orgasm by having their clitoris stimulated during sex. It is one reason why one of the hottest selling items in a sex shop are penis rings (cock rings) with built in vibrators. But if you think about it, there are a lot more things in your daily life that vibrate, and you can use that to your advantage. Have you ever had sex on your washing machine? If not, you are in for a treat. Put the machine on spin cycle, and go to it. For an extra kick, do something to unbalance the machine (like throwing in a floor mat all by itself). You will never look at laundry chores in the same negative light again!.

For other fun, Have her hold her phone next to her clit and give her a bunch of hot, dirty crank calls, and set to “vibrate”. This really pumps up the sexual satisfaction, and with most phone plans is dirt cheap to implement. You have to keep the phone dry, so use a condom.

For those of you in California, when the next earthquake hits, get horizontal in a hurry and take advantage of the mega vibrations. You may miss the main one, but the aftershocks should not leave you unprepared. And what a shock the aftershock would have for your partner. Add some zest on your next train ride with some sexcapades. Most trains have some interesting vibrations, rocking and rolling when in motion. When all else fails, pull out the trusty cell phone again Roller coasters are a thought, but the complexity of pulling it off pretty much makes it a non-starter. Airplanes are at their best in rough weather, but the spoil sports in the cockpits always turn on the seat belt signs. Of course, a blanket or two can give you enough privacy for a quickie.  Then of course, sex in the bed of a pickup truck while going over a washboard road is just about the best. This takes at least one helper, or another couple so you can take turns in the bed of the truck. Of course when going for it in the truck bed, some sort of padding is a necessity. Use and air mattress or at least a couple of yoga pads. Now go have some fun out there!

Ya Hoo!!

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Sex Advice for Women

The One Night Stand

I had emailed a girl on POF but did not get a reply. That happens a lot and I sort of flushed it from my memory.  So I was a bit surprised a couple of weeks later to get a reply, and even more surprised when the reply contained her phone number. It struck me as strange that someone who didn't know me that well and had never spoke to me in person would all of a sudden ,just out of the blue, leave me her phone number. Likely I should have run like a chicken, but since I had not been with anyone steady in a long time, I decided to take a chance and texted her.

We communicated back and forth by text for a couple of days before we agreed to meet for coffee. She had to drive about sixty miles to see me, so I was kinda flattered about that.We lingered over coffee for quite a while, and that extended into supper as well. I edged the conversation around to see if she would be interested in spending the night. Much to my surprise, she accepted but said it would have to be at her house because she had to return the car soon. On the drive back we began to kiss, and it seemed to be going great. Once we arrived at her house, we quickly settled onto her couch, listening to music and resumed our mutual stimulation. It was really a rush.

Suddenly, she started getting text messages by the dozens and she started to focus on replying to them. Then her phone started to ring as well, and she kept answering it. I really thought it was quite rude for her to be spending more time on the phone than with me. To add insult to injury, when she was not focused on the phone, she started to tell me all about her ex boyfriend and her trials with him! Like I cared! I just sat there pretending to really give a shit, making noises to her like, “uh huh....yea....oh.... that’s too bad”, figuring she probably still had a thing for him. But hey, I must have done something right because we eventually had sex so it was worth listening to her shit. We were hardly done before she jumped out of bed and scurried down the hall to her friend's room. She never returned. I waited up for a bit to see if she would come back, but I gave up about a half hour later and decided to just sack out.

When I woke up, I decided that this was all too weird for me and decided to get out of here as soon as possible. As I opened the bedroom door, I saw her roommate standing there looking at me as if I was something squirmy. Her roommate triggered all my psycho chick alarms. I have no idea why. Then it struck me. She was looking at me as if I was competition. These two ladies had a thing for each other but it seemed that the one who picked me up was bisexual. Just to be perverse, I decided to have a shower before I left. The water in this backward hell hole probably was not fit to let an animal drink let alone a human because it smelled like boiled eggs. By this time I was really pissed off.

I got dressed and went back to the room I had slept in and waited for her to  explain what the heck was going on. Mostly, I just wanted to know how I was going to get home. When she came it she told me she was in a spot because she had borrowed the car from her friend's mother without permission. Her roommate's mom had flipped her lid and kicked her out over the episode. She had to leave in an hour.

I noticed she looked like she was on something and her roommate looked all strung out as well. This freaky looking fellow came over to take us to her own mother's home. The house was set back about a half mile from the road. When we got there, there was a bunch of sorry looking people hanging around. They all looked like they were on something pretty powerful, and from the strange smell around, I guessed that they were actually cooking up a batch of something out back someplace. This entire group was all just hanging around listening to some of the worst music I have ever heard. And of course they had to have the volume up full to boot. It was sort of like one of those bad nightmare scenarios that you see in some B grade Hollywood movies. I started to get a bit scared.

One if these guys stirred himself enough to tell me which train I needed to take home. My date and her mother left me standing there for a few minutes, and when they returned, we left. I guess the plan was to drop off my date and her mother someplace and then have me ferried to the train station, because that is what ended up happening.
I finally realized what it was about this guy that rubbed me the wrong way. He had his teeth filed of all things! All of his front teeth were pointed. About the only thing that he needed to look more like Count Dracula was the cape. Of course he also needed a good Bela Lugosi accent. Either way, I was weirded out. His constant grinning was getting to me. The longer I was with him the more I was certain that I would crap my pants. I had to clinch my cheeks together as tight as I could and hoped I would get home in one piece. I hoped he had not decided to drive me all the way home, but suddenly we arrived at the train station. I wasted no time getting out of that car.

As it turned out, with all the delays at the house, we missed the train I was supposed to catch. I had to wait three more hours for the next one. On top of that, I did not have enough money to get all the way back. So I just sat back and stewed. I had to get off about an hour away from my destination and hitchhike the rest of the way. It had started to rain, and it was getting colder. I was pretty wet and miserable by the time I got to my apartment. I tell you, it had never looked so cozy. The first thing I did was take a nice hot shower in 'clean' water.

Plenty of Fish might better be called Plenty Of Freaks from my perspective. I have used a couple of other dating sites since, but they are all paying sites now. There are times when you get what you pay for, and totally free dating sites are the epitome of that expression. There is nothing much that filters out the riffraff on free sites.
Not all free sites are bad. In fact, POF may actually be okay for most people. I may have had a worse experience than most. But in the final analysis, they have a harder time filtering out idiots because they tend to get more of them.

Once I had made the decision to leave POF, I had another issue to solve. How would I find a replacement site that was actually better. After a lot of searching, I finally found a site that rated a bunch of dating sites. It has been successful for me, so I am passing that on to you. There are risks in joining any dating site, but especially so for free sites. So be safe. The link below is one that I have used successfully. I trust it will be a valuable resource for you as well.

Top 10 Dating Sites

Have Sex – Will Orgasm

In Victorian times, most adult ladies never experienced and orgasm. In fact, many did not even know what an orgasm was.  Many women were brought up with no sexual instruction, and sometimes with negative messages about their bodies, and their sexuality. In fact a twin study climaxing in 2005 found that one in three women reported never or seldom achieving orgasm during intercourse, and just one tenth always achieved an orgasm. Orgasms don’t come easily for many women. A woman who cannot have an orgasm is as frustrated as a man with an erectile disfunction.

Now the question is how do we change all this, especially when most women now a days  want orgasms. Lets start by defining a female orgasm.  Woman experiencing an orgasm is much like what men achieve-there is a peak of sexual excitement, marking a moment of intense pleasure, and a pulsing, electric sensation that spreads out through the body.  The rhythmic pulsations take place within the pelvic area also encompassing the vaginal walls. One key difference is that women do not have to have a recovery period, and may have many orgasms with continued stimulation, usually within 60 to 120 seconds. In most women, there is no fluid ejaculated during orgasm.  This is an important fact for men to know, so as to not feel like they have not pleasured their woman, or make them feel inadequate because they don't.

With the right stimulation, most women can achieve multiple orgasms if they so desire.

Women are physiologically pickier than men when it comes to achieving an orgasm. For instance:

1) They need to feel wanted, and appreciated a sensual surrounding
3) A partner whom they really like
4) Relaxed environment
5) The right degree if clitoral stimulation – not to rough, not too easy

You will not have great success in giving your partner orgasms if you fail to provide most of the above.

Men should understand that women will have different varieties of orgasms---the most common is orgasm of the clitoris.  The clitoris may be stimulated in a few ways, but the most common are oral stimulation or hand manipulation. The clitoral orgasm may be wet or dry, and leads to pulsations within the uterus . Another type of orgasm is called the G Spot. The G spot is tougher to zero in on: it is located on the upper side of the vagina – about one half way in. The majority of women will have the G spot a few inches inside the vagina, and on the upper side.  Gentle but firm pressure is required to find the G spot if the woman is not stimulated yet.  It is a softer area that is about one half centimeter in size. The location and size varies somewhat from woman to woman.  A vaginal orgasm will usually occur if the G-spot is appropriately stimulated.

Figure 1, Internal Female Anatomy:




In summary, an orgasm is something amazing that will provide both partners with a wonderful rush of pleasurable feelings. The next list is a summary that can help you to help your female partner have orgasms regularly:

1) Women are touchy, feely people – use gentle stroking with your hands, lips and tongue.Be gentle, especially when touching her genitals, or rubbing her clitoris
3) Gently kiss her breasts to create excitement
4) Take it slow- it is not a race
5) Talk to your partner, find out what she likes
6) Be a tease- touching her pleasurable spots then withdrawing over, and over again. This will build arousal, and heighten orgasm.
7) Use your own natural lubrication to moisten her clitoris – however she may need additional lubrication, you can buy lubricants at any drugstore.
8) Be careful not to over stimulate some parts of the body – too much manipulation of the nipples or clitoris can cause pain
9) Experiment: try different things
10) Discuss anything new you may want to try and listen to her, you do not want to push her into something that will spoil the mood

Men should use this guide, because if their partner can enjoy orgasms every time they have sex, then you will definitely have more sex.

If you are an sexually unhappy woman – nag your partner to read this article, after all, your entire future is at stake!

Good Luck!

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The Secrets of Victoria Secret

I decided to join an online dating site a while back because I was having no luck in finding someone that I liked in the usual bars and nightclubs that I frequented. The first step of course was to create an online profile for the women to know about me. I was a successful businessman who had leveraged a small inheritance into a respectable fortune in real estate. I had never been married, and I was looking to settle down with someone special.

After a few weeks of chatting with a lot of elegant seeming women, I eventually found someone that I seemed compatible with.  At first we just emailed each other, but that quickly lead to online chat sessions. Eventually we decided to have our first in-person date.  We met at a not quite intimate restaurant. My first suggestions of more intimate venues were not to her liking. I finally realized that she was just being cautious. After this insight, I suggested a more family style restaurant in a large mall. She accepted immediately.  Lesson learned!

I wanted to look presentable, so I got a haircut, and picked up a new blazer type jacket to go with my slacks. I hate the whole I could care less about you idea that some guys portray. I abhor the entire look of not shaving and looking scruffy that many men sport today. I think it is insulting to women. Mainly because it looks like she is not important enough for you to put yourself out for.  I like to dress up for a date because it communicates to the woman that I care about her. It is a tacit compliment to them that if you fix yourself up, you must think highly of them. Before I ventured out the door for my date, I was looking as respectable as my budget allowed. I had showered, shaved and was dressed in my new slacks and blazer.

As usual, I was early for our reservations to make sure that there was no issues and waited for her to arrive. When she showed up, only slightly late, I was a bit amazed. She was pretty in her pictures, but in person she was even prettier, which is a trick that few women can pull off. But it was not her face that was so special. There is just something that some women have when they move that makes you want to praise God and sing halleluiah to his greatest accomplishment, the female body. Well, let me tell you, she had it in spades. She had a terrific body shape, but that was not what it was that was the attraction. It was her elegance when she moved that held they eye. It was an angelic flow of movement that you just could not get enough of. Every mans eyes in the place watched her as she moved across the room. Her figure was amazing, and her clothes had been selected to showcase that figure to it's fullest. I was tongue tied.

Normally I am not a guy who is enamored with large breasts, or a curvy body of any type. I am really much more attracted to a slim compact body. The same goes for butts, legs and everything else. There are always specific cases that belie my normal bias of course.Delta Burke was a woman who had a presence that could make me look past my 'heavy' bias to see the incredible beauty of the woman underneath.

Even though I am attracted to slim, I detest the anemia that tends to 'grace' the catwalks of the fashion industry today. Most of these women are just freaks. To me, a woman who has a trim body because she exercises is twice as sexy as a woman with large breasts that jiggle all over the place. My date on the other hand seemed to have the best of both body types and the disadvantages of neither. No wonder mens heads turned! I kept being attracted to her tight and toned body as she moved with the grace of a feline across the room.  Nice rounded breasts, a slim torso, and  a nice rounded rear end. Her rear was sort of like what a dancer would have. Muscular and tight. Truly a nice package to look at.

We ate dinner and really enjoyed each others company. Since it was a first date, I had not planned a lot of extra anything beyond the meal. We just lingered over the remains of our dinner and chatted. Eventually I took her home, and we kissed goodnight.  As far as first dates go I would have scored it a nine out of ten. We planned to meet again the following weekend.

The ensuing weekend saw things go even better. On that Saturday we had brunch. Later we took in an afternoon cinema before going out for dinner. Later that night we went dancing. As we danced, I noticed that she felt a lot different than any other woman that I had danced with. I just put it down to the material in the clothes that she was wearing in conjunction with that tight body. The following weekend, we went out again. During the day we just walked through a park, and afterwards we did dinner and dancing. I could not believe how good things were going.

That night, we kissed, and that led to other things. While we were desperately ripping off each others clothes, I ran into some significant surprises. She was wearing a Victoria Secret triple push up bra with (I guess you would call it) mammary foam (rather than memory foam) that exaggerated her bra size significantly.  But I was okay with that, because I am not a fan of large boobs anyway. But on top of that, the reason she was trim and tight was because she was wearing this thing called a body shaper. (I thought that girdles went out in the sixties with women's liberation – at least that is what my mother told me). When she took it off she actually had no muscle tone and some slight flab underneath. And as a final kicker, she was wearing a false butt! Holey moley, a body phony! She was a fake person! I felt betrayed!

Well that took the wind out of my sales and the stiffness out of everything else. I asked her how could we expect to have a future together when everything about her was a lie. I told her that if she had showed me how she really was, I would have fallen for her anyway. I said that preferred her the way she actually was, but she had crossed a trust line with me that I could not get over. We parted ways that night, which is a shame really. She was so perfect for me otherwise.

I just do not understand the way that some people go through life pretending to be something that they are not. But in hindsight, maybe it was actually a good thing that had happened. At least that avoided the embarrassment of me telling her that I was a car park attendant.

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How My Big Date Went To Shambles

I was having a lot of trouble getting a date. I mean, even my family tried to set me up with some girls they knew but nothing really came out of it, not even a second date. “Hey” I'm not a bad looking guy and I have a decent job so whats the problem? It appears that I had one bad night and now I'm branded for life in my normal circle of acquaintances.

So here is my sad tale of woe, and hopefully you will learn something from it.

It began simply enough when some friends cajoled me into going to a formal dance with them. They told me to wear dress pants and a jacket. The pants were not an issue as I had a couple of suitable pairs. The jacket I had to go out and buy, so off I went. I didn't regularly do much shopping and had no idea what I was looking for until a sales clerk came up to me and asked if he could help. I explained I needed a jacket to go with my black dress pants. He indicated that they had some really great, inexpensive jackets that they had imported from Mexico recently. I immediately liked the color. I thought that the yellow shade would make me stand out and I was trying to make a positive impression. The material seemed a bit rough, but the price was great so I bought one and proudly carried it home with me.

That night I showered, shaved and combed my hair just right then put on my clothes. My father was passing by my room and I asked him how I looked. He responded “Nice Benny son”. “What the hell is a Benny?”, I thought to myself. I liked what I saw when I looked in the mirror. Here was someone who was an up and comer with I thought. Unfortunately, I did not notice a pesky loose thread on the back of my jacket near the shoulder seam.

When I got to the dance to meet my buddies, I saw that it was well attended. It seemed that everyone that I knew was there, and a bunch more on top of that. The place was really hopping! My buddies had set this date up with me and she was a bit late. That did not bother me too much because it gave me a chance to hang with my friends and relax a bit. When she got there, and after we were introduced, she wanted to head out on the dance floor immediately. I was pleased that she was a nice looking girl, and the evening was certainly getting off to a positive start. All of a sudden she informs me that there is a lose thread on the shoulder of my jacket. I told her to forget about it but it seems she just couldn't keep her fingers off the stupid thing. She decided to do me a favor and pull it off. Unfortunately when she pulled it all hell broke loose.

As we started the next dance, she started tugging on the thread. Instead of breaking off however, it just kept unraveling. Eventually it reached the floor. They were playing “All Shook Up” by Elvis Presley. It was a new rendition of it and I hardly recognized it as the tune that my dad used to play occasionally. As the thread fell on the floor, it began to get tangled around several ankles. The faster they danced the more entangled they became. Someone tripped and fell into a table, spilling everything on it all over the place. Other people tripped and the disaster increased. By the time the dust settled, six people were on the floor and six tables full of drinks were overturned. What a mess! My buddies hightailed it out the exit laughing their guts out. My date just walked off in a huff!  I was all on my own.

The owner of the club started to scream at me. He was truly pissed! As I stood there alone wishing I could just crawl under the table and hide, people began to snicker and curse me. The owner quick marched me out of his establishment, and threw the wad of yellow string at me as I exited. The only part of my yellow jacket that I was still wearing as I exited into the night was one sleeve. As I headed home, my evening ruined, I took what was left of my new jacket and threw it in a trash can along the way.

So that is my tale of woe! No sane woman who knew me, or knew of me, would date me. My reputation and $500.00 could not even buy me a hooker!!

It was my sister who eventually pointed me in the right direction. She was sick of me moping around by then. She said that there was no way that anyone in the neighborhood would ever date me again (as if I did not know that). She said I would have to either move away, or else try to connect with someone on an online dating site. Moving was out, I just could not afford it. A dating site seemed like a good idea, so I decided to give it a try. I picked one at random, but had no luck. So I googled dating, and was overwhelmed at the number of sites. Which one would be the best for me. I tried the top site POF.com – stands for plenty of fish, but I did not have much luck on it.  My sister came to my rescue again and suggested the link that I will share below. It has a big list of quality dating sites to choose from. I signed up to a couple of sites, and finally met someone who can take me for who I am, and not the idiot who bought a cheap jacket once.

So if you find yourself in a dating bind like I was, then check out the link below. I am sure it will work for you the same way that it worked for me.

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Anatomy of a First Date

First dates are your best opportunity to dazzle someone. But it is also the most likely point where you will turn them off forever. So much is on the line that there would likely be a solid business model out there for someone to coach you for a first date. Just like in the movie "Hitch". It is important that you are genuine with them as to who you are. Do not put on a big act about being prince charming if you would never normally think of opening a door for someone. On the other hand, do not go out of your way to be a slob either, even if that is how you tend to be in private. With this in mind, here are a few tips that I have compiled, based on my dating record that might help you.

1. Reset Your Libido

This concept was first introduced to the mass public in the movie "There's Something About Mary" – starring Ben Stiller , Cameron Diaz and Matt Dillon Just before, or during your pre-date shower, give yourself a hand job. With a flaccid member, you are more likely to be your usual intelligent self, rather than constantly trying to shift the conversation over to discussions of getting her in bed. Going in fully cocked, you will focus too much on her physical attributes and that is a turn off for 90% of women. You’ll try to listen to her, but all you’ll be able to think about is where you’d like to stick your tongue. Discharging the rounds from the chamber will also give you more control if indeed sex is the climax – pun intended – of the evening. If you last long enough for her to orgasm one or two times, she will likely be receptive to a return engagement.


2. Get Her Name Right

I called a girl by the wrong name on a first date once, she walked out on me. To make sure you don’t make this blunder, write her name on your cell phone and check it throughout the night to remind yourself.


3. Swallow Before Speaking

Taking small bites allows you to be able to participate in your side of a conversation more quickly. Also, have the courteously to try to pace our your side of the conversation so you end just at the point she is swallowing. It allows for a good pace, and no awkward silences. I was on a first date once, and started to talk with my mouth still half full. We both watched as a piece of my dinner flew out of my mouth and landed on her plate. Awkward. Needless to say it was our last date!


4. If You Bring Her To Your Place, Hide The Porn

She does not want to know that you are into granny porn! At least not yet. Make a habit of tidying up your apartment before every date, just in case. And that means hiding the porn as well. Do not forget to empty your DVD player. Firing it up to watch Must Love Dogs only to have your DVD player auto-load– Debbie Does Dead Dogs – would really suck.


5. Minimize Your Alcohol Consumption

Alcohol can be a great social lubricant. However, it can also make you look like a total jackass. Whatever you think you can normally drink and still be respectable, cut that total in half. Start your dinner by ordering a large bottle of water with your initial drink order. Towards the end of the meal, switch off to coffee or some form of tea, rather than order an expensive desert wine. Making mistakes and drinking too much is a common mistake. One I have made myself. But the results speak for themselves. Only one time did my drinking excessively not get in the way of subsequent dates, and that was when my date turned out to be a complete lush. It was fun at first, but I broke it off after a few months.


6. Don’t Talk About Your Ex

On on evening when I got too drunk and messy, I also made another first date mistake. I talked too much about my ex. Talking about your failed relationships is just stupid. If pressed, do not lay blame. Say that the relationship was not working out because, as the relationship progressed, you both had discovered that you both had significantly different incompatible interests. Learn to talk about women's shoes. It is a topic that allows for some humor. You must keep her entertained, otherwise, your chances for a second date will disappear.


With any luck, you can pick up on a few of the insights that I have gained over the years to make you a master of first dates.


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What Seniors Are Looking For

Being single again after a lifetime of marriage and being over fifty can be pretty daunting. At least half of women over the age of 60 live alone compared to only one out of six men. Dating sure has become a different animal in the last couple or three decades. Today it is not unusual to see a grandmother buying condoms along with her Metamucil or denture cleaner. Older men are often so confused that they don't know if they should open a door, pull a chair out, or pay for the whole dinner and movie.

Several old television relic’s have proven more than once that we all have a come back or two in us, but with every failed date that idea, like our perfect hearing, is slowly fading away. Most of us would like to believe that we can come back from the ashes of a previous relationship a few times, but after a while, with little luck, hope will no longer seem so spring eternal anymore. Approaching a relationship the second or third time around can be pretty daunting, especially if you have been out of the game for a few decades because of a successful relationship.  Finding yourself splitting in your 50's can be a very shattering experience. Becoming a widow or widower is even more so. People tend to be a bit more set in their ways and comfortable with their life styles when they are in their 50's and beyond. This makes it much more difficult to find someone compatible than when you are in your more flexible 20's. If you are looking to find someone who just meshes with you and your lifestyle, the odds are severely against you. If you intend to find a new life partner, then you must be prepared to do a few changes. These do not have to be radical, but you do need to do some things differently. Personally, I always hated golf, but I took it up so that I would have a better chance of finding someone – and hey, I grew to like it, so it was not a waste.

I have had dates that demanded I pay for half the meal, the gas they used to come to my home and pick me up, and to add insult to injury demanded that for our next date I pick them up,  how pig headed is that. I guess I am not that liberated yet. You will often have to sit through a stressful evening of stories about their current job or past profession, their deceased wife,  ex girl friends, how good they are in bed, and how their piles are inflamed and they cannot sit for another minute. Of course several of them will also bring up the topic of Cialis or Viagra, just trying to lay a foundation for later on.

And its just as discouraging for the men.  I have heard many  disaster stories from friends, who are at the point of no return when it comes to dating. All of these are symptoms of a fundamental incompatibility with each other from the get-go.

So why is it so tough to find a match when you are a senior?  Life is supposed to get easier as you get older. Unfortunately this does not seem to apply to mature people dating. What is the source of the problem? We are not amateurs in the dating game! We know who we are and what we want. So why is it so tough? Could it be we have our standards set too high? I doubt it! Mature adults want the same things that the younger set are looking for in a relationship. They all want:

1) Someone To Listen
2) Someone To Care
3)Someone Interesting
4)Someone Compassionate
5)Someone Loving
6)Someone Understanding
7)Someone Compatible
8)Someone With Similar Interests
9)Someone With similar Values
10)Someone To Share Our Lives With
11)Someone Who Respects Me
12)Someone I Can Respect

Is that too much to ask for?

After discussing my relationship vacuum with several of my good friends. They suggested that I try one of the dozens of senior dating sites available online. I was reluctant to try using a dating site, but after some encouraging information from my pals, and after being sexually self satisfied for quite some time, I decided to give it a go. I turned on my computer and searched for senior dating sites. There were too many. It was just too much.

It was pretty overwhelming initially. I started having flashbacks of when I was a kid trying to choose a candy bar at the store. I explained this to one one my friends and she suggested a site for me. This site is a dating site rating service. They have tested thousands of dating sites, and have a list of the sites that they recommend. All of them are categorized to make it easier to select. My friend said that she had signed up to a couple of the recommended sites just to make sure that she would find someone fast.

She said that is how she met her boyfriend. Here I was thinking that she met this terrific guy at work, boy was I taken aback. So I gave them a try, it was simple I just created a profile, told them what I was looking for in a man, and they did the rest. Pretty soon I find myself matched to several interesting guys, and they can all actually carry on an intelligent conversation. I'm in dating heaven! For the first time in in what seems like centuries I am actually going out with exciting men and enjoying my self, life really does get better with age.

If you are approaching your golden years and you are seeking the person you want to spend the rest of your life with with, then take the first step. Check out the link below and join one or two of the sites. You will never regret it.

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A Condom Conundrum

Being on the Dating scene is a continuous adventure. The exercise is usually fun, and always stimulating. You are sure to meet many new people. Some you will click with and develop a budding friendship. Many will quickly fall by the wayside. There are a few however that will develop into longer term friends, and even lovers.

Along with the quest for the love of your life comes the side benefit of a lot of sex with new partners. Not that there is anything wrong with that. After all, adult relationships almost always revolve around sex. Only a moron would have unprotected sex with a bunch of new partners, and your primary protection is the condom.

Most men and women do not like condoms at all. They severely reduce the sensation for men and as such often make sex less pleasurable for women as well. If you had to put a condom on your tongue before eating, there would be no fat people in the world. You don’t starve, but you don’t TASTE!” In this day and age of AIDS and other debilitating STDs, you would have to be crazy not to wear one.

At least there are some fun choices for the selection of your little rubber buddies now. There are now more choices than just slippery or dry. There are some really kinky condoms out there for the adventurous – flavored, and colored, and studded, and ribbed. Make sure you read the packaging before you go too crazy with any of them though – some are novelty condoms, and do not portend to prevent STIs or pregnancy. They’re just for fun. In fact, if the lights are out, you can use the glow in the dark condoms to read the wrapper. Handy!

Some of the more unique types of condoms raising their heads are quite amusing. One is the “Inspiral Condom”. It is a spiral shaped condom that is quite the rage. U.S. Surgeon Dr. A. Reddy, who also invented the prototype of the original female condom, did the fundamental research that lead to its development. When in place on the penis, it looks like a big screw. According to the rave reviews online, it creates intense sensation in the man and woman, while creating a feel like the sheath is thinner than it actually is. Getting screwed by someone has never been so enjoyable!

For those studs out there who want staying power, there is the new “Viagra Condom”. It stimulates a longer and more protracted erection. It is designed for dudes who have a hard time keeping it up once the condom is on. Looks like my personal pack of pleasure is going to bulge with at least one more item!

Besides sex, condoms have found a myriad of other practical uses. They are often packed into survival kits where they are used to keep things dry, hold drinking water, and even to fashion a sling shot with.

A gallon of water! That surprised me. Especially considering that the average ejaculate a man expends during sex is one and a half teaspoons. Overkill!

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Plenty Of Freaky Chicks

I had emailed a girl on POF but did not get a reply. That happens a lot and I sort of flushed it from my memory.  I got a reply back from this particular individual several weeks later, complete with phone number. I was a bit surprised however when her email included her phone number. I mean, I had never even communicated with her before. Likely I should have run like a chicken, but since I had not been with anyone steady in a long time, I decided to take a chance and texted her.

This started an avalanche of text messages back and forth for the next few days. We finally decided it was time to meet. Since my car was broken down, she drove over 60 miles in an old heap she borrowed from a friend just to see me. I was quite flattered by that.We lingered over coffee for quite a while, and that extended into supper as well. I was a bit surprised when she suggested that I come to her house for the night, but I accepted willingly. As we drove to her house, we snuggled and then started to stroke each other. I had to back off because she started to really get into it at one point and almost went off the road. We got back to her place and started listening to some music while snuggling on the couch.

All of a sudden she she got a few text messages which she answered. On top of this, her phone started to ring non-stop, and she seemed compelled to answer it rather than just turn it off for a while. Needless to say, I was not impressed with this side of her. Not only that, but when she was not talking on her cell phone or texting someone, she was telling me about her ex-boyfriend. Like I was really interested in him. So I made polite noises at the right times while I sat there totally bored by this new twist. I must have done all the right things because we ended up snuggling some more and then headed for bed. The sex was quick and wild, but did not last too long because she said she was tired as soon as she came a couple of times. I barely managed to go off. As we were going to sleep she got up and went into her roommate's bedroom to spend the rest of the night. After waiting about 20 minutes for her to come back, I got the idea that she was out for the count and just went to sleep.

I woke up alone and wondering what I was going to do. I decided to get the hell out of dodge as fast as I could. When I opened the bedroom door, her girlfriend was standing there looking at me as if I was some undesirable bug. Something about the roommate just seemed off. It was one of those instant insights that you get about people sometimes. I cannot put a finger on it. I could only describe it as “off”. Just to be perverse, I decided to have a shower before I left. The water in this backward hell hole probably was not fit to let an animal drink let alone a human because it smelled like boiled eggs. By this time I was really pissed off.

I got dressed and went back to the room I had slept in and waited for her to  explain what the heck was going on. Most importantly, I needed to find out when I could escape from this crazy place. When she finally showed up, she told me that she was in crap up to her eyeballs because she had taken the car yesterday without permission. Apparently her friend's mother was very peeved that she had taken the car the previous day, and that we had to leave now.

When I looked in her eyes, I new that she was on something. Her friend was as well from the look of her. A weird looking guy came over to take us to her (my date's) mother's house. The house turned out to be quite isolated. The living room was full of creepy looking people. Most of them were pretty drugged out. There was a strange odor in the air which I assumed came from a batch of something cooking out back someplace. They were just hanging around in a stupor listening to loud blaring music. It was wild. It was sort of like one of those bad nightmare scenarios that you see in some B grade Hollywood movies. I started to get a bit scared.

A couple of them actually got into an animated discussion as to which train I had to take to get home. My date and her mother left me standing there for a few minutes, and when they returned, we left. We dropped my date and her mother off someplace else, and then we were on our way again.
This guy really freaked me out. He was all in black, had his hair spiked and some of his teeth filed. If his objective was to look like a werewolf, then he was successful. Just needed a bit more hair. Maybe a beard would have helped. He kept grinning at me once in a while and I was starting to get concerned. His constant grinning was getting to me. The longer I was with him the more I was certain that I would crap my pants. I just clamped my butt cheeks together as hard as I could and hoped I would not be in the car too much longer. I was worried he was going to drive me all the way home, but to my relief he drove me just as far as the train station and told me to get out. I happily obliged.

As it turned out, with all the delays at the house, we missed the train I was supposed to catch. I had to wait three more hours for the next one. On top of that, I did not have enough money to get all the way back. So I just sat back and stewed. I ended up detaining about an hour from home. With no money, I had no alternative but to walk and thumb the rest of the way home. It had turned into a damp cold, drizzly day, and by the time I got home I was pretty demoralized. The first thing I did was to take a hot shower to wash the stink off and warm up.

Plenty Of Fish! Plenty of freaks is more like it as far as I am concerned. I have used a couple of other dating sites since, but they are all paying sites now. I have learned that some times free is not always the best way to go. And some sites are not always safe because any moron, freak and weirdo can also join, just because it is free.
Not all free dating sites are crappy. I concede that my experience with POF might have been outside the norm. Either way, I decided to cancel my account on POF and go elsewhere.

In my search for something other than POF I came upon a link that took me to some great dating sites, you might want to give it a try if your fed up with sites like the one I was using. There are risks when joining any free site so be aware, be safe and have fun. The link below is one that I have used successfully. I trust it will be a valuable resource for you as well.

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Dating on the Internet

There are literally thousands of dating sites on the internet. Many are just scams. In reality, there are only a double handful of legitimate large scale dating sites. Most of them are just not worth the effort to join. Many dating sites are not free, and some that pretend to be free are only free for some minimal functionality.

In general, you can see other people, but you will have to pay to contact them. But even if you have to pay, isn't it worth it to meet the love of your life. If you are interested in online dating, follow the link below and it will take you to a site that lists the best sites on the internet.


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Sex Appeal for Dummies

What is sex appeal exactly? Most dictionaries describe it as”the ability to excite people sexually”, but dictionaries also describe sexy as being”attractive in a sexual way.” Isn't that the same thing you ask—no, there is differences here so lets explore this further.

Assume a man sees  a cute girl someplace wearing a mini skirt, and low cut top to showcase her breasts.  He will likely think that she is sexy, but is that initial reaction driven by sexy, or sex appeal? While sexy and sex appeal blend together it is quite common to see someone as described above. So what do you have to do for more focused attention?

Men tend to focus on what is currently in front of their eyes, and there is lots of sexy eye candy to attract their short term attention. Sexy is a requirement for and immediate grab at attention,but unlike sex appeal they will likely forget what a merely sexy woman looks like within a few minutes. Sexy is just a quick attention getter, and will generally never amount to more than that.  Someone who dresses for  impact can be sexy, but it will seldom lead to a more serious consideration, and that is the difference here. Sexy is the whipped cream without the pie.

Sex appeal is much more than that, it is more about having self confidence, and a confident sense of self. When anybody exhibits all these signals they exude an aura that demands recognition by others. This aura projects onto surrounding people and makes them feel good as well. Anybody with sex appeal will look great in rags. She knows that it's the woman that makes the clothes not the other way around. Her sense of style and self worth shines though the apparel. Women with sex appeal are always humorous, intelligent and in touch with their sexuality and sensuality. We've all been around an up-beat individual  who seems to smile all the time, and laughs a lot, even when things may be concerning for them. This vivacity is one of the keystones of sex appeal.

Sex appeal holds its head high, it stands tall,and makes its presence known. Females with sex appeal appreciate you in spite of your faults, they  do not let one bad experience affect their relationships with others. They leave any emotional baggage behind. Sex appeal is a glass half full attitude, giving, and complimentary of other people. This all stems from being the loving human beings that they are.

Hopefully you can now see the differences. It all boils down to this simple observation-- if you have learned to love yourself, and others,  it will  emanate into sex appeal as, sex appeal is really all about stature, personal development and image of yourself. Men will look at sexy—no doubt, but it takes the whole person to get past his eyes, into his head, and ultimately into his heart.

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Black Dating

The Internet is now the engine that drives freedom of expression to the entire world. There are two sides to this issue. The first is that the platform is a perfect soap box for fanatics and hate mongers. The better side of the Internet is its ability to drive the causes of freedom of religion, the embracing of racial equality, and lauding the benefits of religious diversity.
This can be seen in practice as most of the online dating sites on the Internet have mostly embraced these freedoms with the various choices that are available to new members when they sign up. All aspects of sex, sexuality, religion, race and language are catered to. To that end, the Internet Dating Community fully embraces the spirit of freedom of expression and choice that have been the hallmarks of the Internet revolution.
Dating online is not just for a single race, black women and black men also make use of the Internet to find potential spouses. The coolest thing about the Internet is that it is okay with many sorts of relationship types that were totally unacceptable before the internet revolution. The internet is the primary promoter of a worldwide melting pot comprising races, religions, ethnicities, ages, sex, sexuality and/or age groups.
If you think that it is hard to find a black mate online, you are mistaken. As long as you know where to look. Here are a few tips on how to find black men and black single women online.
When you see the variety and numbers of social networking sites that people are joining lately, almost everyone is connected to everyone else in some way. It is almost guaranteed that some of your acquaintances are connected to single black men and single black woman. It is totally possible to leverage sites like facebook to find your black soulmate. Many social sites allow you to publish a personal profile with the objective of finding someone of similar interests. Black singles and people interested in meeting black singles can post their profiles for other people to view. Broad spectrum social networking sites will often have an area for personals type ads that match single black men and single black women with others from around the globe. Sites like craigs list or kijiiji where such postings are a sideline of their core business are examples of this class of site.
Probably the easiest way to meet other black singles would be to sign up to a black online dating service. There are many of them on the web. It might be wise for you to know what you want when zeroing in on the black dating site that you are seeking.
The Internet is the right place to find the perfect match for you, whether it is for finding old friends or finding someone to have a serious relationship with will likely be the best tool for you. People from all walks of life use the internet daily. At any given point in time there are hundreds of black singles online seeking for other black singles to connect with. If you google black dating sites, you will soon find that many sites allow you easily post a profile, look at other peoples profiles, see their photos and videos, chat and email them.
Keep in mind that black singles do not need to use special purpose black dating sites to get action, there are quite a few online dating sites that offer interracial dating, so it is possible for you to meet another black single, Caucasian single, or Asian single almost right away. At the same time there are people all over the world hoping to meet someone just like you, so you could be connected with someone from another company if you are willing to travel to meet them in person.
Nobody should be all alone, there are so many helpful ways of connecting with people these days there is no reason to be alone. There is nothing pathetic in seeking a partner online, at least you will have an idea what the person is like before you get involved, and if you are not satisfied with what you see then you can block this person so you don't hear from them or talk to them again. Being anonymous is one of the benefits of online dating, if the person turns out to be a jerk or not what your looking for you don't have to take it any farther then that. And you certainly don't have to meet them unless it's what you really want..
So come on love starved singles out there, get online and check out some of the online dating sites and black dating sites, you have nothing to lose but everything to gain. Wouldn’t it be nice to spend the coming year with someone special instead of vacationing alone. To save you time, the following link is provided to allow you to find many pre-vetted dating sites.

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Lesbian Relationships

 For a lot of lesbians, finding the love of your life can be as easy as going online to a lesbian dating website (or even some more general purpose online dating sites) and creating an accurate profile that is interesting to others, and then just sit back and wait for them to come to you. It can be that easy but you will have even more success if you reach out to other people on the site. So spend some time reading other profiles online, because not only might you find some really interesting females to connect to, but you could also get some good ideas of things that you could have put in your profile or different ways of phrasing your profile to make it more interesting. If someone's wording or ideas caught your eye, then similar wording or ideas might help your profile catch someone else's eye. A number of lesbians find themselves in groups of singles while they are doing things they enjoy, are at work, and attending social gatherings. If you are at some sort of specialty event, then there is a good chance that you might meet someone there that has similar interests to you.

 A common mistake that a lot of lesbians make when having their first relationship is getting too involved too early. Before you end up waking up next to an individual that you barely know. Go out on a few outings first, get to know each other to find out what you have in common. You must have some common interests, values and plans for the future that will mesh well. Share things with each other, if you get a new job, if a acquaintance has a baby, a party is planned, a kudos you might have gotten, be sure to involve your partner, they are not only your lover, they are  your best friend.

If you are at a family gathering or with friends and someone starts telling gay and lesbian jokes that are in bad taste and insulting to you and your partner, and you see your partner is upset by it, just get up and leave, tell them you came to enjoy yourselves not to listen to a lot of trash about how other people live their lives|One awkward situation would be to find yourselves at a social or family gathering and hear people dissing the gay and lesbian community at large. This will require you to make a stand and let people know that you will not tolerate statements of that nature. Insult them if you have to. If your family and friends are aware of your sexual preference then tell them that you are not at all happy about what was said, and that if they think your way of life is something to be made fun of and make jokes about then please don't expect you and your partner to attend any more get togethers. After all, who needs to go anywhere and be made to feel bad.

Introduce your partner to your friends and family and involve them in everything that you do. This is an important step to establishing and keeping a relationship.

Lesbians are God's chosen people, especially when it comes to STD's like aids.. Women just totally understand how to please each other during sex.  Gay men have a similar advantage, but the aids specter spoils the fun a lot.  Pity the poor heterosexual couples where each party is not quite sure what makes the other either satisfied or happy.

The lesbian life is the best that there is, so love your life and live it to the max. Live, love and share your life with others, and surround yourself with friends and family who will be there for you in both good times and bad.

 Remember that other people may not be comfortable with a lifestyle that they don't know a lot about so try to stick with those who have a positive attitude.  Since you are lesbians, it would be best if you have understanding friends from the gay community at large. It is difficult to find truly open minded heterosexual friends, so if you find some, then nurture them well.

One of the great secrets of the bible is that God created Adam and Eve, but then  after thinking it through made Eve a woman to keep her happy.


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The Sleepover Kit

Once you start to date a woman on a regular basis, there comes a time when you are pretty much expected to sleep over. You should never have to depend on your lady to have a kit ready for you. I mean, what kind of person would always conveniently have a bunch of stuff kicking around for a stray man to use at her house? Sorta scary in a way! On that note, you should always go on a date fully prepared for a sleep over if the opportunity presents itself. All the goodies that I list hear can easily fit into a backpack or small tennis bag. This can be easily stored in the trunk of your car, and hopefully find a permanent home in her closet or under her bed at some later date. So see my example list below, tailor it to suit your needs, and make one up today, especially if you have a hot date tonight!


Something For Your Feet


Your girl may be a wonderful person to be with, but that does not necessarily mean that she is the worlds best housekeeper. On top of that, the floors in her apartment may be freezing in the winter. Pick up some cheapo slippers so you have something to slip on if you have to hit the john in the middle of the night. Nothing is worse than going back to bed with cold feet.


Protection


These are the most essential part of the kit. But get something more than just the lubed and non-lubed varieties. Get yourself some of the new fangled rubbers they’ve got out now. Have some laughs with it and mutually decide which ones you both like best. Unlike American Idol, even the losers in this tryout might have a lot of entertainment value!


Tracksuit


On the same note as the slippers, you want to bring a gym suit in your sleepover kit. Likely she has no control of the temperature and most skinflint landlords turn it a lot lower at night to save money. She might only have one little blanket. Long story short, it’s better to have it and not need it, than need it and not have it. Otherwise, you’ll have to borrow one of her shawls.


Toothbrush


Having fresh breath and a clean smile just makes sense. Nothing is less sexy than having a big piece of spinach stuck on your teeth. And since using someone else's toothbrush is just gross, take your own. Do not forget to buy a travel size tube of your favorite toothpaste as well. Might as well have at least some of the comforts of home.


Candles


Candlelight sets the mood. Also, hides your zits. Cheap and effective ambiance.


Brigitte Jone's Diary


This movie is one of the greats for getting a woman into a romantic move. So the idea here is to make sure that you have it handy for the next time that you are sitting around bored, there is nothing on TV, and the video stores are closed. Plus, it bears multiple viewings and is still good.



All-Purpose Romantic Card With Gift Card Inside


This is my innovation, and it’s a beauty. Pick up a romantic looking card that does not have any writing on it, but has a nice picture on front. Inside, you tape in a card to her favorite lingerie store You draw a big heart and write “All my love on this special day”. Make sure that the sentiment does not refer to any specific event. Then one foggy Christmas eve – well you will not likely forget Christmas, but you will likely forget the anniversary of the first day you met or something important like that. You are sure to be in the doghouse, then you remember the emergency card in your bag. You run to get it and give it to her. The crowd cheers! Tell your buddies.


Ear Plugs


No matter how pretty she is, there is a good chance that some day she will snore and keep you awake. Once again the sleepover kit comes to the rescue! Just make sure that you never use them while she is talking to you.


Sleep Mask


If you have worked late and need to get some shuteye in the morning, it is almost impossible if her room gets the first light from the sun. Use the sleep mask. Of course if her bedroom does not face east, you can always do some interesting role playing with the mask.


Something To Wear The Next Day


An emergency change of clothes is essential as well. I mean, after all, if you do not have spare clothes and something happens, you will have to dress in drag.


Sade Disk


Often musical tastes can differ, and this is OK most of the time. However, when it comes time to put on something to enjoy during sex, if she’s only got a bunch of Backstreet Boys albums, it can be hard to focus. No matter who you are, Sade can set the right mood.


Book


It is always a good idea to have a book in case she has to go do something and leaves you alone in her room. It helps pass the time so you are not tempted to snoop around her digs. At the same time, when she sees you reading, it will make you look more suave and intelligent. Stay away from nudie books. Most women hate that. If you can stomach it, try bringing and reading the latest Nicholas Sparks book.



So, there you go. A great idea, easy to make, and invaluable.




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