Movies As A First Date

First Dates are always problematic. After all, your choice here is giving your new special someone some significant clues as to who and what you really are. Will you look cheap? Will you look like you are trying to impress her by spending too much money? The choice of date and venue really does say a lot about you, and you can bet your bottom dollar that the girl you are taking out is analyzing every bit of it like a dog chewing at a bone!.

The worst thing about a movie date can also be it's best thing. It is hard to talk during a movie. In fact it is frowned upon. So that is bad. On the other hand, it gives you both a chance to get used to being around each other without a lot of pressure on anyone's part to keep the conversation flowing. So that is good. Plus, when the movie is over, it’ll give you a chance to talk about the film, if nothing else is coming to mind. One strange phenomena about first date movies is that bad movies are actually better conversation simulators than good ones. A bad movie can provide the grist for several animated discussions on the movie night itself, and on other days.

Once you are at the movie, your next problem is what to buy for treats. A movie stalwart is popcorn, but is that the best choice? It has the advantage of being inexpensive, but the disadvantage is the propensity for it to stick in your teeth. Also, if your date wears dentures, then popcorn is a no-no. Consider chocolate candy like M&M's. Most women and most men like chocolate. For drinks, try to stay away from anything that is gassy or fizzy like soda pop because they will make you belch and that is not going to leave a favorable lasting impression. Most theaters will offer various types of non-carbonated beverages. One favorite is iced tea. No matter what your final decision is, remember that if you intend to also go out after the movie, then you might want to limit your eating while at the theater.

Good Movies

There are obviously movies that will put her in a romantic mood, and maximize your chances at first base. The first thing you should do is to ask her what she likes, and go from there. Scary movies are good, but not gory movies. You want her jumping and grabbing you, not vomiting into the licorice bag.

Three examples of good first date movies would have been:

1. Comedy –Any Bill Murray comedy – get her laughing! If she’s having a good time and smiling, you’ll have a good chance at holding hands.

2. Drama – Casablanca – pretty unbeatable. Unfortunately date movies this good are rare.

3. Romance – Princess bride – The perfect first date movie. Got me my first boob squeeze in the back of a theatre to this film.


That being said, here are some examples of first date movies that would classify as a bad idea:

Bad Movies

Stay away from movies involving tragedy!  These would be examples of BAD choices:

1. Holocaust Movies – The Diary of Anne Frank would be horrible for a first date.

2. Sob Stories – Boys Don’t Cry – I made the mistake of taking a girl on a first date to this film. She just cried all the way home on the subway. Terrible. Great movie though!

3. Adventure  Movies – Conan – Don’t go to any movie where the main actor is shirtless and muscular. Otherwise, you’re risking a comparison where you will not come out on top.


And for god’s sakes, don’t take her to a porn theatre!  Sure, it gets your intentions across, but it’s a little strong for a first date. Watch Taxi Driver to see what happens when you try to pull that one on an unsuspecting young lady. Taxi Driver, by the way, would have been a bad choice for a first date movie.

Good Luck and have fun!

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BBW Sexy Ladies

Everyone has their own ideas of what sexy means.
The umbrella of "sexy" covers many ideals. 
As society has changed, so to have ideals, examples and vision of what it is that defines sexy. 
Sex, in general terms, was considered to be a not to be discussed in polite company topic. 
Once movies became a big part of everyone's life, the idea of being seen with a large woman on your arm gradually became less in vogue with most men.  Big Screen sirens were usually more willowy than most other women for their time. The reason was simple; cameras add pounds to anyone's form, so screen actresses tended to were slimmer in real life so that they would look normal on the screen.  Slowly, the idea of sexy gradually shifted from voluptuous to thin.

There is now a shift in place that is changing the sexy ideal to larger sizes.
With plastic surgery, big boobs are more in style, even on skinny women.
Push up bras  with even triple padding are hot selling items among younger ladies, but when their dates see them without clothes on, the the bare truth is revealed.  Men are let down with push-up-bra types.  Because of this, many men are increasingly look at more naturally enhanced women, so curvy is back in vogue.   And on that note, who is more curvy than a big beautiful woman?

When you look back in time, curvy women were considered to be most desirable. Larger women were idealized as child bearers, and offspring were a need in nomadic and agricultural societies.  Even in cave man days, small statues often idealized their goddesses as voluptuous women and in most cases these statuettes were more fat than just curvy.

The lyrics in "Fiddler On The Roof" (If I Was a Rich Man) which talks about Russian rural society at the turn of the twentieth century talks about a rich man's wife as having a proper double chin. In other words, for much of history, being portly was a status symbol, because it proved you had plenty to eat, and therefore must be well to do.

In the last half of the twentieth century, there has been a lot of immigration from many various ethnic groups into north America. With these people have also come the more traditional preference for larger families and more motherly builds.  The curvy lady is back in vogue.

Who knows, maybe in a few more years, the most desirable porn queens will be big beautiful women.  Mae West was certainly not in any way skinny, but in the early twentieth century she was most men's ideal of a sexy lady.

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Tips For Online Dating

Online Dating Positives

One of the most amazing things that modern technology has offered to the human race is the entire new way that it is possible to meet someone new. Yes, I am talking about online dating sites. In the hundreds of thousands of years that human beings have been meeting and interacting with each other, there has never been anything that approaches the reach, the utility, and the convenience of online dating.

Up until recently, you were limited to whoever was in your immediate vicinity and social circle. Now, you can meet and woo anyone in the world. The most amazing thing is that you can look through what they say about themselves and shortlist a bunch of people that you are interested in that also have some things in common with you. On top of this, most dating systems have searching algorithms that will help you find all those people in the first place. It is just so amazingly easy.



Online Dating Negatives

However, there are downsides to online dating too. Nothing is perfect. For example, the hot young woman you think you’ve been chatting up online could be a 500 pound rat-catcher from Arsspik, Siberia. Or vise versa. Men and women both tend to post younger and more flattering pictures of themselves before they gained 40 pounds, and had more hair. You just never really know if the person you are interacting with is telling the truth. If they lie about their looks, they may also be lying about their current relationship status. Lots of married men and women troll dating sites. Make sure that you have your guard up!

The bigger dating sites will actually have millions of profiles for you to search through, and that is a curse! Even with the computerised help, the task is daunting. How can you zero in better? Of course if you are like me you just need to search for "deaf, dumb, oversexed female who owns liquor store"!



Further Online Dating Considerations

A name like THREEINCHTOOL is unlikely to gain you much positive attention after all. Chose something that you can mention in mixed company, or better yet, to your minister. Second, don’t give away too much personal information all at once. Slowly let the other person get to know you, and vise-versa. It’s safer. Use a throw away cell phone to establish verbal correspondence with them before meeting them in person for the first time.

Put up a recent photo of yourself, with your baldhead and all. Do not make the mistake that many people make on a dating site and present yourself as being younger, or with more hair than you actually have. How will you get past the first in person date if you lie about who you are or what you look like? However, don’t make the profile picture too sexy. Keep in mind everyone on the dating site will be able to save anything you put up. Never complain about your current situation or your ex. Nobody likes to listen to a complainer. If pressed, admit to making a few mistakes and that you think you have learned from them. Also, make sure that you have more than one person that you are talking to at the same time. So many people stretch the truth in online dating that getting your hopes up on one specific person before you meet them is most likely to end in disappointment. So join several sites, preferably under different online names, and have 4 or 5 people on your active friends list at any one time. It is okay to date more than one person at a time until you are ready to commit. It is expected!

When you finally decide to meet in person, plan the time and venue of your first date carefully. Choose a day date, first off. That way if you don’t hit it off, you can leave and still have your evening free. If you cannot find a time during the day to meet, then meet early on in the evening, and come up with some sort of alarm so you can make excuses and leave. Set your phone to alarm about 30 minutes into the date so you can pretend to take an emergency call and leave if things are not working out. Do not be afraid to inform them that you are seeing other people. If you appear to commit too early, it sends out a bad vibe. On the other hand, make it look like you are not a Lothario.

If you are lucky she will show up in her nurse naughty outfit and you just know you have your soul mate. Good luck!

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Beach Date

You just gotta love the beach. It is a relaxing place to be, and everyone is their to have a good time. The beach becomes an even better place to be if you have the new object of your desires there with you. However, if you’re going to go for the beach date, there are some considerations to make. Here are some tips for a successful beach date.


First off, there are five things you MUST bring to the beach on your date. If you forget any for these, your day will be off to a lousy start that can only get worse. BSSWT is the mnemonic to remember. They stand for Blanket, sunscreen, shoes, water and towels. The sand and sun will be so hot, that without that stuff, you’ll burn, roast, and fail. However, once you’ve got all that stuff, you’ve got the basics covered. Now the advanced pros and cons to the beach date to consider.


The Good Stuff

The best things about the beach date are that it is inexpensive, and you get to see her in a bathing suit. A free look at your potential honey in her bikini is something that you should take advantage of! . Of course it you have wrap around dark sunglasses, you can discretely check out all the other hot bodies as well.


The beach date is mostly about swimming and just horsing around with your honey. Splashing and playing with beach balls and Frisbees is a lot of fun. It can always be awkward to get those first few touches or embraces with a woman, but if you’re playfully wrestling and splashing in the water, it’s a quick way to get those first touches out of the way. And remember that sun screen? Helping each other put that on is instant "rub your hands all over the other person's body" intimacy. Outstanding!.


The beach date is also great because you can stay and watch the sunset and have a picnic supper with her. This is very romantic, and if you have played your cards right all day, will lead to much more intimacy.


Cons to the Beach Date


One thing that is sure to spoil a beach outing is rain, cold weather or excessive wind. Check the long range forecast before you make the date if you are planning in advance. Even so, the forecast is likely to change, so have a change in venue if it turns out that the beach is a no-go for reasons of weather. Do one final check the night before because the weather will be pretty certain by then. Remember too, that the temperature at the beach is always a little cooler, because of the onshore breeze. Bring an extra sweater in case she gets chilly.


Sharks are always a potential threat to a good date. Don’t take her to Amity Island in New England. From the films about that place I’ve seen, beach-goers can have problems. ;-)


Nothing is as big a pain as a loud, obnoxious group of people close by. You know the type, rude, foul mouthed, and just show offs. Often pushing their weight around because they need to feel big for some reason. If you run into something like that, then just move up the beach a way to where it is quieter and more private. Remember that you may have to be mobile, so pack as light as you can.


Lastly, you have to expect a few muscle-bound hunks will be walking along the beach looking for women. These jerks ruin it for all the other dudes who have a beer belly or shoulder hair. Try distracting her when these guys are around, but if they keep coming by it will be obvious what you are trying to do. At that point, just let her have her fill of female type eye-candy. Likely she would not be going out with you in the first place if she was actually attracted to these muscle bound types.


If you have a good day, you may linger after most of the crowd has gone. This is the time when most people would think that you could have some beach sex. No matter what all the Hollywood movie story-lines tell you, making love on the beach is not likely to be all that enjoyable. Here’s why. Sex on the beach always involves sand. It’s coarse, and not what you want when you’re getting “slippery”. Plus, it’s not private, and gets cold fast once the sun goes down. Bring her home to bed – trust me!


Hope this helps, and remember the sunscreen!
 
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Is Love Waiting For You

     As I did my daily routine of running through the creek behind my house one sunny fourth of July last year, I was looking in awe at the fallen trees, and the weeds that some people would argue are flowers, and smelling the water in the creek (that I know comes from the sewers), when a bird pooed on my head. I thought “oh well” just another ordinary day. As I ran along, I bumped into a acquaintance of mine that I will call Stinky and please don't ask why I call him that, I think it should not be a mystery to you. As we walked, I mentioned to him that a bird had done its business on the top of my head, and he replied “where is that tree you were walking under, its good luck”. If I had thought for one minute that it was good luck I would have rolled in it, (as you may have figured Stinky really doesn’t have much of a social life, but then again, neither do I).

         Our biggest problem is communicating with the opposite sex. Stinky can usually make a few vowel sounds, then he has to go away. I’m a little more relaxed since I work with mostly women anyway. I can usually start a conversation with them before I start to sweat and have any confidence suddenly elude me, then I have to politely excuse myself.

    Stinky feels that women's standards are too high when it comes to dating, however, I beg to differ. I really don't believe for a minute the women suggesting that he  have a shower before picking her up is classified as “high standard”. Stinky  may be the smelliest guy I know, but he is  one of the nicest (nicest not brightest). However, he does sometimes on occasion come up with pretty off the wall idea's that make a lot of sense, but I'm not sure about this one. “We will join a Dating Site” he cried out. I said before sometimes he comes up with smart idea's but this wasn't one of those times. He proceeded to inform me that a friend at work gave him the idea(some friend). “Is this the same friend that leaves deodorant and body wash on your desk?” I asked. “It sure is! He's a very thoughtful person,” (ya right). Stinky said “My friend met a wonderful women on a dating site,” (what women?? the guy he's talking about  is a homosexual.) “Why would your homosexual friend use a dating site to meet women?” I asked, “I think your getting in over your head”. In the end, and after weeks of dodging  Stinky and his not so bright idea, I finally decided to give in just to make him happy.

        As I tried to sleep that night, all I could think about was the last date I had, which had not ended under the best of circumstances. I’m sure the woman I'll call “hungry”, hadn’t eaten in a week  prior to our date and she must have thought I owned an oil well or something! After she had gobbled up several hors d'œuvres, as well as several other side dishes, expensive wine and a double order of lobster, I checked the balance on my Visa card, then to my horror she suggested  we order desert! “Desert!?” I quickly reminded her that this was not an all you can eat dinner, she then  jumped up called me things I've never heard before and stormed to the door. Like the desperate person I am, I ran after her and asked if she would like to see me again, at which time she slugged me with her hand bag (I guess that meant no!). So I went back to the table and sat alone looking at the bill she had run up and wondered if I would be able to get lots of overtime at work next week to pay for it.

        I started to have second thoughts about joining a dating site, but since my best friend had his heart set on it (and knowing he would do anything for me), I decided to go through with it. It turned out to be the best move that we had ever made. Stinky and I both joined a Dating Site, and it wasn’t long before we had  responses from some beautiful ladies. We were both very scared and excited to think that we might no longer have to prop up blowup dolls on our couches so the neighbors would see the silhouette and think we actually had lives. Stinky asked me “what should I do to get ready?”I said “just get in the shower, turn that water on, use that bar of soap (you can't take it with you) and scrub your worries  down the drain”, (as well as the dirt and body odor of course).We double dated that evening to support each other, and we had a mind blowing time. We ate, had some drinks, and danced the night away. Stinky took me aside and confided in me, that even though he had just met this women, he knew this was the one. I gave him a bear hug, and said “follow your heart,” and he did. She seemed to take to him as well, surprisingly!

         Well I don't call him Stinky anymore, (no one does now that he has learned  basic  hygiene). He is above all, my best friend. Devon is still with that wonderful women he met on that dating site. This was eight years ago and after dating for some time, they took the plunge. They had one child and are expecting another any time now. As for me, it took a little longer, but I finally found the love of my life, and we are expecting our first child soon. Life is great and it keeps getting better!

       Its true what they say, there's someone for everyone. You just have to look in the right place. Some times it just takes someone who cares about you to push you in the right direction . Life is too short and precious to spend it alone, wondering what it would be like to have someone to share it with. So if you want to turn around your life then take my advice, and get off your butt and make the first move.

    Hey, if Stinky and I can do it, so can you! There are so many dating sites out there it is easy to get lost, or waste you time on insignificant ones, but I'll give you a tip, this is the site that me and Stinky used to find the best sites for us and in our opinion its the best place to find dating sites. So if you are tired of being alone and want someone to be with for the rest of your life well just follow this link, it will be the best move you ever make.

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Ideas For Kinky Dates With Open-Minded Ladies

Once in a while, the universe will smile on a single man and hook him up with an open-minded and adventurous woman in his dating life. This is a woman who is not likely to be singing in the church choir on Sundays if you get my drift.  If you hook up with a lady of this nature, you have to go to crazy places on a regular basis. Here are some suggestions if you’re ever lucky enough to get one of these women to go out with you. Have fun!

Nudie Bar

If your women has any sorts of bi-sexual tendencies, she will likely jump at the chance to go to a strip bar. I mean, she will likely enjoy the action as much as you! She might even buy you a lap dance, and vise-versa! There are some memories to last a lifetime! Many strippers are bi-sexual, or into threesomes, so if you want to really be out there, you might find that the girl on stage can be persuaded into a menage a trois. 

A Trip To Your Local Sex Shop

Going to a Sex Store is an interesting way to pass a rainy afternoon. Lots of fun stuff to explore, and if nothing else, get giddy over. Sometimes it is best to loosen up before the trip by going to a bar for a couple of drinks first. This helps to lower inhibitions a bit and makes the entire experience more enjoyable. Pay attention as you walk around and take notice of what she is touching, or looking at. Ask questions and see if she gets a blush on. You can tell her what you’d like to buy for her. She can get you something. If you approach it right, there is nothing but fun and good times to be had in a sex shop. A word of caution here. Most quality shops are pretty expensive, and there is a no-returns policy on just about everything. Make sure you can bankroll the trip before embarking on it.

Strangers Meeting Role-Play

Once you have been to a sex shop, you may have picked up a few costumes to clown around in. If not then a return trip might be in order! In any event, the more costumes, the more fun. You can even mix and match! You can be an astronaut or a spy, and she can be a prison warden or a movie star.

The best way to pick the role to play is to write them all down on separate pieces of paper, and then pick them out of a hat or something.


BDSM Parlor

For a real change of pace, consider Bondage. It requires that you fully trust your partner, and that may actually add to your relationship. Lots of people like the bondage and domination part of it. Saddo is not everyone's cup of tea..  Most regular practitioners are into the bondage side of things rather than the domination or the saddo masochism, so do not let the idea scare you.  Do not be afraid to go just because you have never done it before. Most BDSM parlors will help newbies so that they will become regular clientele.



That should be enough to dip your toe into. Besides the sex shops, you can always just rent costumes. There are plenty of places that cater to the movie industry that you can tap into, even Halloween costume shops! For other ideas, there are always fetish parties to attend, and sexy-themed hotel rooms to stay in. Just make sure you keep it fun, entertaining, and KINKY!

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Transsexual Dating Sites

The live of a transsexual person is not an easy one. We are such a small part of the population, that it is difficult to find anyone who has a clue about what you are about, or who would be compatible with you. I now understand from first hand experience that transsexual people in smaller centres often lead a lonely, despondent life. For this reason, transsexuals seem to gravitate to big cities all over the world.
My first experience meeting people online was with AOL chat rooms several years ago. My first reaction to the chat room was very positive. I thought that it was an amazing way to meet new people. It would be the tool that would let me meet someone outside of my small community. It only took me two or three months to realize what I was exposing myself to. Many of the people that I met where just there to take advantage of other people. I think I heard every scam in the world in my time using AOL chat. What a huge disappointment!
When I first started with AOL, I was living in a small town in the American Midwest. My sexual preference is not mainstream and there were slim pickings in my local community. You cannot imagine how lonely I was! There was nobody in my community that I could relate to. I was becoming increasingly depressed. When I found AOL chat, it seemed to me that it was the answer to my prayers. Finally, a chance to meet someone that I had something in common with. I was willing to move anywhere for that.
I met a fair number of people, and even managed to meet a few in person, but nothing really clicked for me At one point I was sure that I had found the one but I soon found out there’s a thin line between reality and fantasy.
It seems that many people online pad the truth about who they are or what they do. It is a safe place to lie to other people, because if you are careful, nobody knows who you really are anyway. There is no retribution for misbehavior or giving false information to another person. You can totally play with people's emotions and then just sign up for a different account with a different name, with absolutely no worries about liability for your actions.
Online relationships are as varied as in person relationships, but they often bias towards the more hurtful. The fact that people are anonymous often sees them dissing on you rather than building you up. They can leave you with serious questions about your own self worth. If you let them, they can even drive you to the brink of suicide. If you fall in love with someone, and they pull away, it can leave you questioning why it is that relationships are not working out. You tend to question yourself when in fact the fault is the media itself.
When looking for love online, you will have to keep your sincerity radar on full alert. It is so easy to be drawn into a con job. I have found that one good litmus test is to see early on if they are willing to talk on the phone. It seems that people who are just conning you do not want that level of traceability.
I finally realized that I was being made a fool of way too often. In an effort to not waste as much time, I decided to set targets and goals with each new person that I met. I decided that from now on I would chat online for no more than a week, and then if we both found each other interesting I would insist they call me on the phone or I could call them.
It is truly amazing how many people vanish into the ether when confronted with talking on a phone! To my way of thinking, real people use telephones, talking on the phone is an essential component of the process of getting to know someone. If they don't want to talk to you by phone then they're just wasting your time and nothing will come of it.
Because chatting is a fairly recent phenomena and you have been talking all your life, you are much better at picking up verbal clues. You will be better able to delve into the personality of the person over the phone than on chat. One thing about a telephone conversation is that they can only talk to one person verbally at a time. If the person is on a chat room, it is nothing to keep several conversations going at once.

I was really getting disenchanted with chat room romances.A friend of mine suggested online dating, I freaked out and told him that I had wasted so much time and energy on chat-room losers that I didn't want to hear the word “online” again. He explained that it was not a chat room but a dating site, a transsexual dating site. I was shocked speechless! I had no idea they even existed. He sent me a link to a site that listed hundreds of dating sites, including a page of transsexual dating sites.

Let me cut to the chase and say that I tried a couple of the sites out and found someone for me. I have never been happier. Please check out the link below for yourself. If a transvestite like me can find love, so can you!

Good Luck!

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