What Seniors Are Looking For

Being single again after a lifetime of marriage and being over fifty can be pretty daunting. At least half of women over the age of 60 live alone compared to only one out of six men. Dating sure has become a different animal in the last couple or three decades. Today it is not unusual to see a grandmother buying condoms along with her Metamucil or denture cleaner. Older men are often so confused that they don't know if they should open a door, pull a chair out, or pay for the whole dinner and movie.

Several old television relic’s have proven more than once that we all have a come back or two in us, but with every failed date that idea, like our perfect hearing, is slowly fading away. Most of us would like to believe that we can come back from the ashes of a previous relationship a few times, but after a while, with little luck, hope will no longer seem so spring eternal anymore. Approaching a relationship the second or third time around can be pretty daunting, especially if you have been out of the game for a few decades because of a successful relationship.  Finding yourself splitting in your 50's can be a very shattering experience. Becoming a widow or widower is even more so. People tend to be a bit more set in their ways and comfortable with their life styles when they are in their 50's and beyond. This makes it much more difficult to find someone compatible than when you are in your more flexible 20's. If you are looking to find someone who just meshes with you and your lifestyle, the odds are severely against you. If you intend to find a new life partner, then you must be prepared to do a few changes. These do not have to be radical, but you do need to do some things differently. Personally, I always hated golf, but I took it up so that I would have a better chance of finding someone – and hey, I grew to like it, so it was not a waste.

I have had dates that demanded I pay for half the meal, the gas they used to come to my home and pick me up, and to add insult to injury demanded that for our next date I pick them up,  how pig headed is that. I guess I am not that liberated yet. You will often have to sit through a stressful evening of stories about their current job or past profession, their deceased wife,  ex girl friends, how good they are in bed, and how their piles are inflamed and they cannot sit for another minute. Of course several of them will also bring up the topic of Cialis or Viagra, just trying to lay a foundation for later on.

And its just as discouraging for the men.  I have heard many  disaster stories from friends, who are at the point of no return when it comes to dating. All of these are symptoms of a fundamental incompatibility with each other from the get-go.

So why is it so tough to find a match when you are a senior?  Life is supposed to get easier as you get older. Unfortunately this does not seem to apply to mature people dating. What is the source of the problem? We are not amateurs in the dating game! We know who we are and what we want. So why is it so tough? Could it be we have our standards set too high? I doubt it! Mature adults want the same things that the younger set are looking for in a relationship. They all want:

1) Someone To Listen
2) Someone To Care
3)Someone Interesting
4)Someone Compassionate
5)Someone Loving
6)Someone Understanding
7)Someone Compatible
8)Someone With Similar Interests
9)Someone With similar Values
10)Someone To Share Our Lives With
11)Someone Who Respects Me
12)Someone I Can Respect

Is that too much to ask for?

After discussing my relationship vacuum with several of my good friends. They suggested that I try one of the dozens of senior dating sites available online. I was reluctant to try using a dating site, but after some encouraging information from my pals, and after being sexually self satisfied for quite some time, I decided to give it a go. I turned on my computer and searched for senior dating sites. There were too many. It was just too much.

It was pretty overwhelming initially. I started having flashbacks of when I was a kid trying to choose a candy bar at the store. I explained this to one one my friends and she suggested a site for me. This site is a dating site rating service. They have tested thousands of dating sites, and have a list of the sites that they recommend. All of them are categorized to make it easier to select. My friend said that she had signed up to a couple of the recommended sites just to make sure that she would find someone fast.

She said that is how she met her boyfriend. Here I was thinking that she met this terrific guy at work, boy was I taken aback. So I gave them a try, it was simple I just created a profile, told them what I was looking for in a man, and they did the rest. Pretty soon I find myself matched to several interesting guys, and they can all actually carry on an intelligent conversation. I'm in dating heaven! For the first time in in what seems like centuries I am actually going out with exciting men and enjoying my self, life really does get better with age.

If you are approaching your golden years and you are seeking the person you want to spend the rest of your life with with, then take the first step. Check out the link below and join one or two of the sites. You will never regret it.

http://www.top100datingpersonals.com/seniordating.php