First dates are your best opportunity to dazzle someone. But it is also the most likely point where you will turn them off forever. So much is on the line that there would likely be a solid business model out there for someone to coach you for a first date. Just like in the movie "Hitch". It is important that you are genuine with them as to who you are. Do not put on a big act about being prince charming if you would never normally think of opening a door for someone. On the other hand, do not go out of your way to be a slob either, even if that is how you tend to be in private. With this in mind, here are a few tips that I have compiled, based on my dating record that might help you.
1. Reset Your Libido
This concept was first introduced to the mass public in the movie "There's Something About Mary" – starring Ben Stiller , Cameron Diaz and Matt Dillon Just before, or during your pre-date shower, give yourself a hand job. With a flaccid member, you are more likely to be your usual intelligent self, rather than constantly trying to shift the conversation over to discussions of getting her in bed. Going in fully cocked, you will focus too much on her physical attributes and that is a turn off for 90% of women. You’ll try to listen to her, but all you’ll be able to think about is where you’d like to stick your tongue. Discharging the rounds from the chamber will also give you more control if indeed sex is the climax – pun intended – of the evening. If you last long enough for her to orgasm one or two times, she will likely be receptive to a return engagement.
2. Get Her Name Right
I called a girl by the wrong name on a first date once, she walked out on me. To make sure you don’t make this blunder, write her name on your cell phone and check it throughout the night to remind yourself.
3. Swallow Before Speaking
Taking small bites allows you to be able to participate in your side of a conversation more quickly. Also, have the courteously to try to pace our your side of the conversation so you end just at the point she is swallowing. It allows for a good pace, and no awkward silences. I was on a first date once, and started to talk with my mouth still half full. We both watched as a piece of my dinner flew out of my mouth and landed on her plate. Awkward. Needless to say it was our last date!
4. If You Bring Her To Your Place, Hide The Porn
She does not want to know that you are into granny porn! At least not yet. Make a habit of tidying up your apartment before every date, just in case. And that means hiding the porn as well. Do not forget to empty your DVD player. Firing it up to watch Must Love Dogs only to have your DVD player auto-load– Debbie Does Dead Dogs – would really suck.
5. Minimize Your Alcohol Consumption
Alcohol can be a great social lubricant. However, it can also make you look like a total jackass. Whatever you think you can normally drink and still be respectable, cut that total in half. Start your dinner by ordering a large bottle of water with your initial drink order. Towards the end of the meal, switch off to coffee or some form of tea, rather than order an expensive desert wine. Making mistakes and drinking too much is a common mistake. One I have made myself. But the results speak for themselves. Only one time did my drinking excessively not get in the way of subsequent dates, and that was when my date turned out to be a complete lush. It was fun at first, but I broke it off after a few months.
6. Don’t Talk About Your Ex
On on evening when I got too drunk and messy, I also made another first date mistake. I talked too much about my ex. Talking about your failed relationships is just stupid. If pressed, do not lay blame. Say that the relationship was not working out because, as the relationship progressed, you both had discovered that you both had significantly different incompatible interests. Learn to talk about women's shoes. It is a topic that allows for some humor. You must keep her entertained, otherwise, your chances for a second date will disappear.
With any luck, you can pick up on a few of the insights that I have gained over the years to make you a master of first dates.
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Dating Advice for Men
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